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A personal and graphic description of alcoholism stages. Can you see yourself in these 12 stages?
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Social anxiety signs and symptoms, and support to help you overcome your worries and fears.
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How to survive your partner's anxieties and help them overcome that constant fear and dread.
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Effective 5 point plan to start fixing your relationship today and see the changes tomorrow
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Professional relationship advice with top tips on how to survive relationship stress.
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In a relationship with someone whose children reject you? 10 Tips for dealing with the situation.
Expert advice and tips on how to stop your jealousy destroying your relationship and your happiness.
Relationship advice for New Year's Eve when contemplating ending your relationship or marriage in 2014.
How to survive Christmas without it causing a relationship breakup or divorce.
Could you be suffering from broken heart syndrome after a sudden major loss such as the end of a relationship?
How to keep your relationship afloat when you have a sick baby
The best way to get free or affordable (marriage) counselling and the secret to helping yourself.
What you should know if your partner has OCD. Your questions answered about Obsessive Intrusive Disorder intruding.
What do you do when you are pregnant, but your partner or spouse is not interested and does not support you.
The first openly gay Bishop, Gene Robinson, announced that he and his husband, Mark Andrew, are getting a divorce.
Robinson sets such a great example to couples who are splitting up with these words in The Daily Beast:
"As my marriage to Mark ends, I believe him to be one of the kindest, most generous and loyal human beings on earth. There is no way I could ever repay the debt I owe him for his standing by me through the challenges of the last decade. I will be forever grateful to him…”
No sign of animosity, but instead a generous, kind and loving public acknowledgment of Mark’s strengths and his support during challenging times.
He goes on to say: "I know this flies in the face of the common practice of regarding one party in a divorce as the bad guy and one the good guy.”
I know from my professional experience that this practice is all too often encouraged and amplified by well-meaning lawyers, in the belief that it best serves their client.
Robinson only gives a hint of the relationship problems they’ve had to deal with:
"... like any marriage, gay and lesbian couples are subject to the same complications and hardships that afflict marriages between heterosexual couples.”
Indeed they are! In addition, the local gay community is often a relatively small one; and this frequently causes additional complications prior to, during and after a breakup. Friends are often ready to defend the one that they see as being the victim in the domestic drama. Not easy to escape when you’re in such a small community.
He writes: "Love can endure, even if a marriage cannot.”
So true – and I can vouch for that both personally and professionally. Many couples rekindle their friendship years later, when the passing of time allows for a greater insight into their own role in the problems. Some people even go on to remarry the once rejected partner.
In any case, if you have children, you remain parents for the rest of your life. All the more important to find a divorce lawyer who helps to preserve the dignity and self-esteem of both partners.