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The signs and symptoms of your nervous breakdown are an indication that you've reached your limit. You may feel like you're falling apart, but I promise you - you're not going mad. You're not 'mental'!
Maybe life has just thrown too much at you, either repeated seemingly insurmountable problems or a major life event that changed your future forever.
Your resources - internal and/or external - are no longer enough to deal with all that's on your shoulders. You're constantly stressed and exhausted, your body flushed with stress hormones.
You may even find it difficult to concentrate on this page (bookmark it now!).
As a professional counsellor/therapist, I’ve seen more clients than I can mention who had a mental breakdown – particularly when I was practising in the workplace.
... you're likely to have felt:
Stress and anxiety build up. Periods of time that you felt completely overwhelmed happened more often. You were slowly getting physically and emotionally worn out, already showing symptoms of a nervous breakdown long before this crisis.
Maybe you've heard about someone "having a nervous breakdown" and you've asked yourself: what is it? So, let me explain...
First of all - the terms I've used so far to describe what you're going through wouldn't normally be used in a professional setting.
A medical professional (and some mental health professionals) will talk about 'mental illness', anxiety disorder, stress disorder, panic disorder and post-traumatic stress disorder.
I've used terms like "nervous breakdown" here because I know that thousands of people a month are searching for it. I want to be sure that I reach everyone who's looking for reliable information - hence the more colloquial language.
Let's have a look now at the symptoms - see how many of the following you recognise:
1. Irregular heartbeat
You can feel your heart pounding. Or maybe you're aware that your heart is beating really fast. You may be terrified that you're having or have had a heart attack.
2. Tensed and/or painful muscles
No wonder... they're working overtime without you being consciously aware of it. They're at the ready to help you run away from the (imagined) disaster, constantly in fight/flight mode.
3. Clammy hands and armpits
Your body works hard to cool you down. You're worried about having to shake hands and other people noticing how much you're sweating.
4. Dizziness and lightheadedness
Your blood is drawn to the major muscle groups to ensure they're well-fed and can deal with the (imagined) catastrophe.
5. Trembling or shaking
You may feel these are the most embarrassing symptoms - you're convinced other people will notice
6. Upset stomach and bowel problems
Your body/mind reacts as if your life's in danger. Digestion is secondary to survival - your body wants to get rid of whatever it doesn't immediately need. Diarrhoea, frequently needing to urinate and nausea or vomiting are normal under the circumstances. It's no surprise then that weightloss is a common symptom!
All your energy is being used trying to manage or even just cope with this crisis - physically and mentally.
8. Unexplained aches, pains, cramps and illness
Your body/mind is out of balance. Existing health issues appear magnified. You may be convinced you're at death's door!
9. Coughs and colds
You seem to be catching every bug that's floating around. The prolonged extreme stress is undermining your immuun system.
10. Tension headaches
No wonder with tight muscles, constant worry, stress and anxiety. Mind and body out of balance - you're feeling poorly most of the time.
11. Unrelenting restlessness
You can't seem to sit still long enough to even draw a few long breaths. You're in a constant state of agitation, preventing you from getting a good night's sleep
12. Sensitive hearing
Normal sounds may feel too harsh, loud or shrill
It's important that you have a medical checkup! Or, at the very least talk to a professional counsellor about your thoughts and feelings and nervous breakdown symptoms.
1. Anxiety about everyday things
From the sound of the doorbell to going shopping or having to go to work - it's all too much.
2. Panic attacks and phobias
Periods of an out of control fear which, once passed, you may feel is totally 'irrational'
3. Inability to cope with the most menial tasks
Stuff you wouldn't have thought twice about before are now a major challenge. You can't think straight, have difficulties organising yourself, can't 'lift a finger' and are frightened others will catch on
4. Loss of libido
you feel 'dead below the waist'! This is often a much-ignored early sign as it's so often blamed on other things
...and a sense of shame about that to boot
6. Sleep problems
From not being able to fall asleep to frequently waking up and not being able to go back to sleep due to racing thoughts, general restlessness, irregular heartbeat and constant worry. Your hormone system is completely out of balance.
7. Withdrawal from loved ones
It's as if you're living in a bubble - incapable of even following a conversation - a very common sign
8. Irritability and angry outbursts
You have no spare capacity and can't meet your own essential needs, let alone even the most minor requests from others, including your children or partner
9. Inability to concentrate
You seem unable even to read and comprehend the headlines. You're probably already exhausted from getting this far on my page!
This is almost a given when your life seems to be unravelling
11. Excessive dreaming
Discover how dreaming is linked to mental health
12. A memory like a sieve
The part of your brain that (partly) deals with memory is overburdened and burnt out resulting in memory loss
Remember, you'll recover! Given time, you'll function normally again, but it will be some months.
1. Excessive crying
You can cry seemingly endlessly, at the drop of a hat - whether you're male or female! You're just emotionally overwhelmed. No need to be embarrassed - I understand.
2. Feeling guilty for all kinds of reasons
For 'not pulling your weight', not being there for someone else, not being your 'normal' self, letting the side down, forgetting something important, etc.
3. Feeling desperately alone with it all
You're embarrassed and don't want to bother anyone. You're scared that no one would understand. Even when you do tell family and friends, you may not be convinced they really 'get it'.
4. Feeling no joy in anything at all
You're increasingly withdrawing from all the things you'd normally enjoy - because you can't cope, can't remember, can't think straight, worry that other would notice you're 'not right'.
5. Being/feeling paranoid
You may feel that people are out to get you and single you out for everything that's 'wrong' with you.
6. Feeling manic
Or laughing uncontrollably, feeling on top of the world and able to do or achieve anything you like (less common - needing urgent medical advice!).
7. Feeling suicidal
It may all feel too much to bear. You will need urgent medical attention!
You'll recover your emotional health too, even though you may feel a little fragile for some time to come. That's okay. You'll cope.
When life sucks you under, you can kick against the bottom, find the surface and breathe again”
Sheryl Sandber, Chief Operating Officer at Facebook
There are many nonverbal indicators of a person who is on the edge of a nervous breakdown.
It's not surprising that often a nervous or mental breakdown goes hand-in-hand with signs of depression. Let's talk first in Part 2 about what other people might notice and when you need urgent medical advice.
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