25 Common short- and long-term relationship problems and issues
Category: Better Relationships | Author and Publisher: Elly Prior | First published: 29-12-2012 | Modified: 15-09-2018
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Each entry in the list with common relationship problems on this page has a link to an in-depth article about that particular issue. Each article has a ton of freely available common-sense information, tips and advice.
If your particular problem isn't listed here, then please let me know in the comment section below any article.
25 Most common relationship problems
Here is the list of the most common short- and long-term relationship problems my clients most often came to see me for.
Follow the link to the page you're most interested in for help on how to deal with your particular relationship problem.
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- Affairs/infidelity/cheating (see: Surviving Infidelity and Signs Your Partner is Cheating). This includes emotional infidelity, one-night stands, internet relationships (including 'sexting'), long- and short-term affairs and financial infidelity
- Sexual problems, particularly loss of libido (male and female) and uncertainty about your sexuality (are you bisexual?) or your partner's sexuality - could he or she be bisexual?
- Significant differences in core values and beliefs (see: Relationship Compatibility Questions)
- Life stages - you've 'outgrown' each other or have 'changed' significantly for whatever reason
- Traumatic and/or life-changing events (see also: Brain Injury Symptoms)
- Responses to prolonged periods of stress, such as work-related stress, long-term illness, mental health issues, financial problems, problems with the children, infertility... the list could go on!
- Feeling bored in or with your relationship
- Dealing - and coping - with a jealous partner.
- Having 'blended' family issues (see: My Partner's Children Don't Want to Know Me and Adult children are rejecting my new partner)
- Domestic violence, which includes verbal as well as physical abuse: THE most serious relationship problem (see: Signs of an Abusive Relationship and Signs of Emotional Abuse) See also: "My husband doesn't find me attractive anymore".
- Knowing you shouldn't have got married in the first place! (See my relationship or marriage compatibility test: Stay or Walk Away)
- Lack of responsibility from one partner regarding finances, children, health and many other issues (see: Children in the Middle)
- Unrealistic expectations - still thinking your partner/spouse is the princess or the knight, and not seeing the 'real' human being
- Addictions - substance abuse, gambling, sex/porn... anything that's become an unhealthy preoccupation (see: Alcoholism Stages and Living with an Alcoholic)
- Excessive reliance on social media, to the detriment of the relationship (see: Facebook Problems)
- Lack of support during particularly difficult times from your partner and people that matter to you
- Manipulation of, or over-involvement in, your relationships with family and/or friends (see: Getting the Best Relationship Advice)
- Lack of communication about important matters (see: The Complete Guide to (Re)Building a Happy Relationship)
- Poor division of (or one-sided lack of responsibility for) chores and tasks. It's not only women who complain about this relationship problem! (See: Relationship Communication)
- Perceived lack of concern, care and consideration/attentiveness... feeling like the relationship is one-sided is a big one! (see: How to deal with a Narcissistic Partner or How to 'Make' Your Partner Fall in Love with You Again)
- Significant personal disappointments and traumas that lead to a change in relationship dynamics (see: Your Partner in Prison)
- Long-term depression or other mental health issues suffered by one partner - or both (see: Natural Depression Treatments)
- Significant differences in opinion on how to discipline or deal with the children (see: How Divorce Affects Children and Children in the Middle)
- Long-term stress, particularly when not taking responsibility for doing something positive to address the cause, or learning how to deal with it if it can't be changed (see: Stress and Your Relationship and Adrenal Fatigue Symptoms)
- An unsupportive partner during pregnancy and/or significant problems after the birth of your baby, or lack of support with child-rearing (see: How to Deal with a Birth Trauma)
How unmet emotional needs lead to relationship problems
A close couple relationship provides an ideal opportunity for many of the essential emotional needs of both partners to be met.
However, relationship problems can occur when one or both of you feel that your needs aren't being met.
A marriage or partnership can also become troubled if you either misuse or do not maximise your natural resources.
Not taking care of your own emotional needs can lead you to become unhappy and suffer with emotional, mental, social and relationship problems.
For example, as a human being one of your most important emotional needs is the need for attention. If you feel that you're not getting enough attention, or if you're demanding too much of it, then problems may start to arise in your relationship.
Whenever you think people are withholding from you - praise, appreciation, assistance, loving care, and so on - give it to them. You don't have it? Act as if you have it and it will come. Then, soon after you start giving, you will start receiving. You cannot receive what you don't give.
Erhart tolle, A New Earth
Being happy together takes work, patience, empathy, kindness and a willingness to challenge yourself to become a better you.
Are your expectations unrealistic?
It's unrealistic to expect all of your needs to be met in your relationship or marriage.
Being overly dependent on each other often leads to relationship or marriage problems too.
Please note: if you feel that your needs aren't being met this is a warning sign - not a 'green light' for infidelity!
Unrealistic expectations can lead to disappointment and resentment. However your view of precisely what is classed as 'realistic' is likely to be different from mine and from your partner's.
Therein lies the problem as well as the solution.
By looking at your perception of the problems and your reactions, rather than blaming your partner, you're more likely to make the right decisions about how to overcome the difficulties.
I appreciate you may find this difficult - after all, it could be that your partner has deliberately hurt you.
Obviously, you're not here to be told that you've got to check yourself, and that certainly isn't my intention. The thing is - you can't change him or her!
Not found what you're looking for?
Maybe you haven't found anything relating to your particular relationship problem in any of the above. In that case do take a look at the list of related articles below or my sitemap.
I have written many articles on a diverse range of emotional and relationship problems.
I also recommend talking to a licensed therapist. For further information, see my page: Online Relationship Advice.
Alternatively, let me know in the comment section what your particular problem is. :-)
Adult Children Don't Like Your New Partner
Where to Get the Best Relationship Advice
How to stop arguing
Facebook causing relationship problems?
Partner in prison
Stress and your relationship
Warning signs of a break-up
No sex in your relationship?
Are you bi-sexual?
Is your partner or spouse bisexual?
Warning signs of an abusive relationship
Scared of commitment?
Pregnant, but partner unsupportive
Partner suffers from OCD
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How to Make Your Partner Fall in Love with You Again
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I don't know if I love him anymore
My partner's selfish, needy and attention seeking
My boyfriend has changed for the worse
My Husband Doesn't Find Me Attractive Anymore
How to Overcome Toxic Shame
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