25 Common short- and long-term relationship problems and issues

Category: Better Relationships | Author and Publisher: Elly Prior | First published: 29-12-2012 | Modified: 05-01-2019

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25 Most common relationship problems and issues

Here is the list of the most common short- and long-term relationship problems my clients most often came to see me for.

Follow the link to the page you're most interested in for help on how to deal with your particular relationship issue.

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1. Affairs/infidelity/cheating 
See: Surviving Infidelity and Signs Your Partner is Cheating. This includes emotional infidelity, one-night stands, internet relationships (including sexting), long- and short-term affairs and financial infidelity

2. Problematic physical relationship
Sexual problems, particularly loss of libido (male and female) and uncertainty about your sexuality (are you bisexual?) or your partner's sexuality - could he or she be bisexual?

3. Significant differences
in core values and beliefs (see: Relationship Compatibility Questions)

4. Life stages
- you've outgrown each other or have changed significantly for whatever reason

5. Traumatic events
Traumatic and/or life-changing events (see also: Brain Injury Symptoms)

6. Prolonged stress
Responses to prolonged periods of stress, such as work-related stress, long-term illness, mental health issues, financial problems, problems with the children, infertility... the list could go on!

7. Boredom
Feeling bored in or with your relationship and growing apart (80%)⧉.

8. Jealousy
Dealing - and coping - with a jealous partner.

9. Blended family issues
See: My Partner's Children Don't Want to Know Me and Your Adult Children Are Rejecting Your New Partner

10. Abuse
Domestic violence, which includes verbal as well as physical abuse: THE most serious relationship problem (see: Signs of an Abusive Relationship and Signs of Emotional Abuse) See also: My husband doesn't find me attractive anymore.

11. You shouldn't have married
Knowing you shouldn't have got married in the first place! (See my relationship or marriage compatibility test: Stay or Walk Away)

12. Lack of responsibility from one partner
- regarding finances, children, health and many other issues (see: Children in the Middle)

13. Unrealistic expectations
- still thinking your partner/spouse is the princess or the knight, and not seeing the real human being

14. Addictions
- substance abuse, gambling, sex/porn... anything that's become an unhealthy preoccupation (see: Alcoholism Stages and Living with an Alcoholic)

15. Excessive reliance on social media
- to the detriment of the relationship (see: Facebook Problems)

16. Lack of support during difficult times
- from your partner and people that matter to you

17. Manipulation of, or over-involvement
in your relationship from family and/or friends (see: Getting the Best Relationship Advice)

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18. Lack of communication
about important matters (see: Loving Communication Kit for Couples and Dealing with the Silent Treatment for help, advice and tips)

19. Poor division of or one-sided lack of responsibility 
for chores and tasks. It's not only women who complain about this relationship problem! (See: Relationship Communication for relationship help)

20. Perceived lack of concern, care and consideration/attentiveness
... feeling like the relationship is one-sided is a big one! (see: How to deal with a Narcissistic Partner or How to 'Make' Your Partner Fall in Love with You Again for a ton of relationship help)

21. Significant personal disappointments and traumas
that lead to a change in relationship dynamics (see: Your Partner in Prison for help)

22. Long-term depression or other mental health issues
suffered by one partner - or both (see: Natural Depression Treatments for help)

23. Significant differences with regards to raising the children
See: How Divorce Affects Children and Children in the Middle for relationship help.

24. Lack of progress in addressing problems
Long-term stress, particularly when not taking responsibility for doing something positive to address the cause, or learning how to deal with it if it can't be changed (see: Stress and Your Relationship and Adrenal Fatigue Symptoms).

25. Lack of support during pregnancy
An unsupportive partner during pregnancy and/or significant problems after the birth of your baby, or lack of support with child-rearing (see: How to Deal with a Birth Trauma for relationship help).

How unmet emotional needs lead to relationship issues

A close couple relationship provides an ideal opportunity for many of the essential emotional needs of both partners to be met.

However, relationship problems can occur when one or both of you feel that your needs aren't being met.

A marriage or partnership can also become troubled if you either misuse or do not maximise your natural resources.

Not taking care of your own emotional needs can lead you to become unhappy and suffer with emotional, mental, social and relationship problems. 

For example, as a human being one of your most important emotional needs is the need for attention. If you feel that you're not getting enough attention, or if you're demanding too much of it, then problems may start to arise in your relationship.

Whenever you think people are withholding from you - praise, appreciation, assistance, loving care, and so on - give it to them. You don't have it? Act as if you have it and it will come. Then, soon after you start giving, you will start receiving. You cannot receive what you don't give.

Erhart tolle, A New Earth
Happy couple under a transparent umbrella.Being happy together takes work, patience, empathy, kindness and a willingness to challenge yourself to become a better you.

Are unrealistic expectations causing your relationship problems?

It's unrealistic to expect all of your needs to be met in your relationship or marriage.

Being overly dependent on each other often leads to relationship or marriage problems too.

Please note: if you feel that your needs aren't being met this is a warning sign - not a 'green light' for infidelity! 

Unrealistic expectations can lead to disappointment and resentment. However your view of precisely what is classed as 'realistic' is likely to be different from mine and from your partner's.

Therein lies the problem as well as the solution.

By looking at your perception of the problems and your reactions, rather than blaming your partner, you're more likely to make the right decisions about how to overcome the difficulties.

I appreciate you may find this difficult - after all, it could be that your partner has deliberately hurt you.

Obviously, you're not here to be told that you've got to check yourself, and that certainly isn't my intention. The thing is - you can't change him or her!

Not found what you're looking for?

Maybe you haven't found anything relating to your particular relationship problem in any of the above. In that case do take a look at the list of related articles below or my sitemap.

I have written many articles on a diverse range of emotional and relationship problems.

I also recommend talking to a licensed therapist. For further information, see my page: Online Relationship Advice.

Alternatively, let  me know in the comment section what your particular problem is. :-)

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