Help with emotional problems

Hello You,

I am so pleased you reached out to me for help. I suspect that you are having a really tough time and that you are feeling really desperate right now. I know how frightening that can be – trust me, I ‘ve been there too!

I just want to say to you, very gently and lovingly: “This too will pass”. Of course, it can’t be too soon for you, but you need to be patient with and kind to yourself.

I would so love to have been able to respond to you personally, but I am a band of one and with over 9000 visitors a day it would be impossible to stay on top of correspondence. But do stick with me…

I am going to give you some crisis recovery action steps to help you get through.

This is what I would have wanted to say to you if I was with you right now…

Picture quote: However difficult life may seem there is always something you can do and succeed at. It matters that you don't just give up. Stephen Hawking

5 Step Emergency Action Plan for getting over the crisis


Reach out to someone you trust in your immediate environment right now. Failing that, contact either of these organisations:

You can also talk with an online counsellor/therapist 
once that crisis has settled and you’re no longer suicidal (this is a fee-based service).


However silly it seems, I want you to write the kindest, most loving letter to yourself.  It separates the problems from your core self – you are not your problemthere is far more to you than all that you are experiencing right now. Make sure you include the following:

  • no wonder you feel like this after all that has happened (expand on this)
  • you promise to be very kind for yourself
  • you will get over this given time

And don’t forget to download this emergency self-care sheet.


Contact your healthcare provider/physician as soon as possible.

Step 3

Contact your healthcare provider/physician as soon as possible.

Step 4

Remind yourself 3 times a day of 3 things that you are grateful for. Research has shown that this really works*.

Commit yourself doing it every day for three weeks and then decide for yourself.

Step 5

Do something kind for yourself and someone else every day without expecting anything in return from that person.

Perhaps you are wondering: “what the hell…?!”  But I am really committed to helping you with the best I can provide and let’s face it: what have you got to lose?

So, dust yourself down and get cracking now. Take action – sitting on the sofa staring into nothing and constantly going over how awful things are, isn’t going to help you.

Remember to be kind and patient with yourself, but set some firm expectations for action every morning, afternoon and evening.

I wish you all the best for your recovery and a happier future.

Warmest regards,


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Your problem is never too small or too big, too silly, too embarrassing or too complicated to get personal advice (anonymous if you want) from a licensed, professional counsellor. They’ll be happy to help.

I’m really sorry…

… that I’m unable to help you personally.

I’m a band of one and with tens of thousands of visitors to my site every week it is just impossible to respond personally to any requests for help.

I hope you understand.


*Emmons, R. Why Gratitude is Good. Greater Good, 16 November 2010, via Greater Good