Hello You,
I am so glad you reached out to me for help with your relationship. I know it can be so utterly frustrating and frightening to find yourself in deep waters. Chances are you are feeling very alone with it all.
I suspect you’re unhappy right now and I just want to say to you, very gently and lovingly, that this too will pass.
I’m so sorry I’m unable to be there for you personally.
I’m a band of one and with well over 10.000 visitors to my site every day it is just impossible to respond personally to any requests for help. I hope you understand.
I highly recommend, however, you connect with a qualified, online relationship coach, so do read on for further information on how to deal with your problem right away…
I am giving you some action steps right here to get you to make some positive changes right away…
8-step emergency relationship recovery plan
Here is my advice to help you start to solve your relationship problems:
- It’s really important you calm yourself down as much as possible in whichever way you feel comfortable. I promise you that when you’re calm, you’ll gain a much wider perspective and a better problem-solving mindset.
- There is no emergency (unless you’re in an abusive relationship) so give yourself time!
- Remember that you cannot control or change your partner (and believe me – I too had to work hard to resist the temptation!)
- Connect as soon as possible with a qualified online relationship coach (this is a fee-based service I have partnered with to offer high-quality, trustworthy relationship help) or…
- Click the link to your specific problem in my article: 25 Common Relationship Problems.
- Remind yourself of three things you are grateful for in your life every night before you go to sleep.
- Remind yourself every morning of three positive things about your partner so that you don’t become completely fixed on what you don’t like about him or her.
- Continue reading my free online relationship advice articles to improve your self-awareness and relationship skills.
There you are – that is your start. Commit to these action steps straight away so that you can feel that you’re moving forward.
Remember always – there’s so much more to you than your problems, your thoughts, your feelings and your experiences. I know you’re far stronger than you think you are. You’ve got this!
I wish you well, I wish you hope, I wish you healing.
Warm regards,
Crisis Text Line
Crisis Text Line offers free help if you’re in a crisis provided by trained volunteers:
- In the US text: 741741
- In the UK text: 85258
- In Canada text: 686868
- In Ireland text: 50808