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Help with your relationship

Hello You,

I am so glad you reached out to me for help with your relationship. I know it can be so utterly frustrating and frightening to find yourself in deep waters. Chances are you are feeling very alone with it all.

I suspect you’re unhappy right now and I just want to say to you, very gently and lovingly, that this too will pass.

I’m so sorry I’m unable to be there for you personally.

I’m a band of one and with well over 10.000 visitors to my site every day it is just impossible to respond personally to any requests for help. I hope you understand.

I highly recommend, however, you connect with a qualified, online relationship coach, so do read on for further information on how to deal with your problem right away…

I am giving you some action steps right here to get you to make some positive changes right away…

8-step emergency relationship recovery plan

Here is my advice to help you start to solve your relationship problems:

  1. It’s really important you calm yourself down as much as possible in whichever way you feel comfortable. I promise you that when you’re calm, you’ll gain a much wider perspective and a better problem-solving mindset.
  2. There is no emergency (unless you’re in an abusive relationship) so give yourself time!
  3. Remember that you cannot control or change your partner (and believe me – I too had to work hard to resist the temptation!)
  4. Connect as soon as possible with a qualified online relationship coach (this is a fee-based service I have partnered with to offer high-quality, trustworthy relationship help) or…
  5. Click the link to your specific problem in my article: 25 Common Relationship Problems.
  6. Remind yourself of three things you are grateful for in your life every night before you go to sleep.
  7. Remind yourself every morning of three positive things about your partner so that you don’t become completely fixed on what you don’t like about him or her.
  8. Continue reading my free online relationship advice articles to improve your self-awareness and relationship skills.

There you are – that is your start. Commit to these action steps straight away so that you can feel that you’re moving forward.

Remember always – there’s so much more to you than your problems, your thoughts, your feelings and your experiences. I know you’re far stronger than you think you are. You’ve got this!

I wish you well, I wish you hope, I wish you healing.

Warm regards,

Crisis Text Line

Crisis Text Line offers free help if you’re in a crisis provided by trained volunteers:

  • In the US text: 741741
  • In the UK text: 85258
  • In Canada text: 686868
  • In Ireland text: 50808