Free interactive quiz with relationship or marriage compatibility questions

Category: Better Relationships | Author and Publisher: Elly Prior | First published: 21-04-2014 | Modified: 08-09-2018

"Are we really compatible?" you might be asking yourself.

You could be asking this for fun. However, behind this question I suspect there lies a fear and perhaps even a suspicion that you might not be suited to each other. Maybe you're already having some relationship problems.

Your question then becomes: "Can we make it together and survive troubled times?"

The free relationship quiz further down has questions for you based on my experience as a professional couples counsellor. The questions point you to in-depth relationship articles on my site where you can find out more about specific relationship issues. That way you can find out if the two of your are potentially incompatible.

But why stop there?

Wouldn't you want to know if you're at risk of becoming a doormat? Or of finding yourself trapped in a dysfunctional relationship for any other reason?

What if you wake up one day next to the person you once thought the world of and suddenly find yourself wishing they were someone else?

I'm hoping that with this article I can help you get a better sense of whether or not you're truly in a loving relationship. I'm aiming to help you figure out if the two of you really are compatible, and whether committing yourself to marrying your partner - or staying married - is a relatively safe bet.

(Just in case: you might be looking for fun relationship questions to use during a relaxed, enjoyable evening together. In that case, download the free PDF with fun questions from my page: Fun Relationship Quizzes.)

For a full picture of all that your relationship entails, take my Comprehensive Relationship Test

Dating? First relationship? Second marriage?

Regardless of whether or not you've been married before, if you're in a serious relationship I totally understand that you want to get an idea of how compatible you really are.

You'll want to gain some insight into your partner's personality and character traits, beyond the obvious. You'll absolutely need to know if you've netted yourself an incompatible partner, however amazing the chemistry between the two of you might feel.

If you happen to have been in an abusive relationship before, you'll be even more interested in the outcome of the marriage compatibility test, I'm sure. You'll have been traumatised before and you'll want to prevent it from happening again if you can.

Whatever your situation, you'd be right to mistrust any horoscope you read or any numerology/zodiac/name compatibility test or quiz you take. And you wouldn't want to rely on any astrological charts, psychic readings or dubious fairground fortune tellers predicting your future together either. Truly, your perspectives and understanding of who you are and where you will go are generated from within yourself.

You might have total faith in the law of attraction. However, I strongly urge you not to rely on anything other than any personal responsibility for your future happiness.

Making hard choices

Before you answer the questions I'd like you to watch this short video about making hard choices - it's invaluable...

Free online relationship quiz as a taster

The relationship compatibility test below consists of less than a quarter of my full relationship test. It's here to help you start taking a good look at your relationship and perhaps your spouse-to-be.

All too often I've come across couples who knew the night before their marriage that they were making a mistake. I so hope that you're not going to be one of them!

If you've already planned your wedding and you know you shouldn't go through with it, it's not too late to prevent yourself from making the biggest mistake of your life.

Really think about your answers to the questions below and follow the links for further information. You can learn tons about yourself, your partner and your relationship with some careful thought and consideration.

You can also view this compatibility test as a starting point on your journey together. See it as a way to learn about each other, and to discover how you can improve your communication to give your relationship every chance of growing strong and healthy.

Once you've gone through the questions here, if you feel that you'd like further guidance, I strongly encourage you to complete my entire Stay or Walk Away test.

Relationship or marriage compatibility questions

Are you in an abusive relationship?

  1. Does your partner constantly criticise and undermine you?
  2. Do they deliberately ignore and stonewall you?
  3. Do they physically hurt you - punching, slapping, pinching, shoving?
  4. Have family and friends expressed concerns about your well-being in this relationship?

Click the link for further questions and information about abusive relationships.

(There are more questions on this section in the full marriage compatibility test.)

Interactive quiz with immediate results

Relationship or marriage compatibility questions

  1. Have you been able to accept your partner mostly without wanting to change him or her?
  2. Is your partner generally thoughtful?
  3. Does he/she talk to you about important decisions?
  4. Are you absolutely sure you both do - or do not - want children? Or if you have children, are you generally in agreement on strategies and major decisions?
  5. If you have children, how sure are you that the way you observe them treat your children is as respectful and caring as when you are not there?
  6. Do you consider your partner to be your best friends?
  7. Is your partner happy for you to spend time away, for example for a business trip, a holiday with friends, a workshop, etc?
  8. Looking back over your relationship, have you on the whole felt happy, even if not of late?
  9. Are you happy with your partner's values and beliefs?
  10. If your partner doesn’t tend to say: “I love you”, do you feel loved anyway, even though they don’t use those exact words?
  11. Is your partner interested in what makes you tick?
  12. Would you trust your partner if they called you to say they can’t get home for what appears to be a good reason - stuck at work, at the airport, missed a train, etc?
  13. Do you feel physically attracted to your partner?
  14. With regards to your sexual compatibility, do you feel comfortable enough to ask for what you want?
  15. With regards to desire - do you feel that your partner wants you more than she or he needs you?
  16. With regards to libido - does your partner understand, without any judgement, that passion comes and goes?
  17. Can you have a decent conversation about the things you disagree on?
  18. When you do row, are you able to genuinely make up relatively quickly?
  19. Could you cope, without resentment, if your partner became dependent on you for a period of time because of a physical condition?
  20. Could you cope, without resentment, if they became dependent for a period of time because of mental or psychological condition?
  21. Does your partner contribute toward joint bills equally, relative to their earnings and situation?
  22. Are you able to let your partner have the space and time to pursue their interests without your feeling neglected - within reason?
  23. Do you agree on what - within reason - means?
  24. Would he or she support you if you had to take care of/spend more time with your family?
  25. Has your partner introduced you to her or his friends?
  26. Would your partner be understanding if you suddenly had to work longer hours or work at the weekend because you felt it would further your career or allow you to change direction?
  27. Do your arguments start harshly with much negativity, e.g. destructive criticism and sarcasm?
  28. Do complaints about your behaviour turn into criticism about you as a person?
  29. Have you given up on trying to talk things over?
  30. Are you leading almost separate lives?

Your score is: ...

Take happiness from what you do have instead of focusing on what you don't and can't have.

In need of relationship advice?

I really hope you found these questions worthwhile if you're dating and wondering whether you're compatible, especially if you've decided to move in together or even get married.

Need a bit of extra help?

Talking things through with a trusted friend or loved one can be a great place to start. Alternatively, you can connect - in confidence - with a professional, licensed therapist. For further information, see my page: Online Relationship Advice.

I think you'll also enjoy using my Complete Guide to Building a Happy Relationship. It's packed full of tips, advice and tools which can benefit you right now, and in the future. You deserve a happy and fulfilling relationship, and there is much you can do to achieve this :-)

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