This article will help you get a really good insight into what you can expect from marriage counselling, and how it can help you and your partner navigate those troubled waters.
Relationship or marriage counselling can be very helpful even if your partner doesn't want to go.
You can expect that the therapist will still be able to help you without judging either one of you. He or she will remain aware of 'the empty seat', even if, clearly, what happens in couple counseling is different from what happens in individual counselling.
In my view, too many therapists 'dabble' in relationship counselling. They think that they can do the job based on their training for working with individuals.
Couples counselling techniques are very different - what happens in couple counseling is in many ways different from what happens in personal counseling.
No doubt, you'll now want to know how you can make sure you're going to see the right professional to help you deal with your relationship problems.
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Read my article on how to find a good (relationship) counsellor to discover what questions to ask.
Assuming you have found the right counsellor, here's what you can expect from marriage counseling and what happens in couple counseling...
A couples counsellor knows that often one of the partners is coming along to the sessions reluctantly (maybe even both!). Most couples are somewhat anxious about what might happen in couple counselling.
Let's face it, when you got together you probably never imagined you'd end up in someone's counselling room!
However, you can expect a good therapist to make every effort to help that person feel at ease.
Of course, a partner may also be reluctant if he or she is having an affair! Naturally they fear being found out. An experienced relationship counsellor will sense when there's information missing... but won't be able to read minds!
What happens in marriage counselling...
If both you and your partner agree that counselling is what you need right now, you can seize the moment and get started straight away.
Online relationship counselling can make it even easier to access the support and guidance you need. Scroll down to the blue box at the end of this page if you're ready to start today. There's no time like the present! ;-)
Pre-marriage counselling is a really good idea before you tie the knot. So many problems can be sorted before you both commit yourself to the marriage, including...
... constant arguing in a relationship
... general communication problems
... issues with in-laws
... financial problems
... problems with the children (if it's not your first marriage)
... sexual problems
It may feel difficult to get the relationship you want when it seems so much is stacked up against you. You might feel it's impossible to stop the marriage preparations. The thought of telling your future wife or husband that you're worried may fill you with horror. Yet in secret, you wonder if you should go ahead with it at all.
The good news is that you could perhaps consider talking to your partner about making a really positive step. You're much more likely to get a positive answer if you say you want to invest in your lives together by going for pre-marriage counselling.
If you're both committed to sorting things out, there's every chance that you can have the marriage you want. Professional relationship advice can certainly help you on your way.
I know there are lots of reasons why people don't like the idea of counselling - let alone relationship counselling. However, you can turn the tide all by yourself if your partner seems to have lost the will to work on your relationship.
If that sounds familiar, the best resource I can recommend - whether or not your partner is willing to help to make things better - is my Positive Communication Kit for Couples.
In addition, I highly recommend you read my other articles with healthy relationship tips and advice, problem solving strategies and free relationship advice on the secrets of a happy marriage or relationship.
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Often one of the partners doesn't want to go for couple counselling - for whatever reason. Very often it's the male partner. If you really think that counselling can help and your partner won't go, then you can start by yourself. Your partner may decide to join you at a later stage.
Counselling can now be very easily take place online!
If you're ready to get started, you can speak to an online licensed therapist today.
Just watch this video from the University of Rochester to discover how watching movies about long-term relationships can cut the divorce rate by half...
Did you take notice of the advice to talk about your own relationship after watching the movie together?
Not sure at all that you want to save your relationship or marriage?
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Sorting out your 'personal stuff' is very likely to have a positive impact on your interactions with your partner. You may have been trying to pretend for years that you're over those emotional problems! However, deep down you know that they are still there.
Just think how much better you could be feeling if you finally dealt with all that 'stuff' - traumas and difficulties from the past. It could release emotional and physical energy that you could re-invest in other areas of your life. It's also very likely to contribute towards you having the relationship you want.
Just think, in couples counselling your therapist and your partner are both there to help you increase your awareness of how that 'old stuff' is affecting your relationship. When we talk about what happens in couples counselling, this is one of the most important things to mention. However, you can of course expect your counsellor to be really sensitive towards your needs.
Take that first step now and ask the advice of a qualified online counsellor for support and advice. I promise you - it is confidential, you won't even need to give your real name if you don't want to.
A couples counsellor should be happy to discuss with you, at first contact, what you can expect in marriage guidance or couples counselling. However, he or she is unlikely to have a lengthy conversation with you about your difficulties.
This is to prevent starting the journey with a knowledge of the problem from one partner's perspective only. But you'd be very welcome to chat about what you can expect, what happens and what it's like to go for marriage- or couple counselling.
At this point it may be useful to help you understand whether or not you'd be able to get free marriage counselling, so click the link to find out more.
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University of Rochester - Divorce Rate Cut in Half
International Association for Relationship Research