Categorie: Better Relationships | Author and Publisher: Elly Prior | First published: 07-08-2014 | Modified: 13-08-2018
The likelihood is that you've landed on this page by clicking on a link in one of my emails (or via my blog).
Perhaps you were hoping that I could help you, because you're feeling hurt, let down, sad or just totally stressed out.
You may be worrying where it might all lead to and whether you, or your partner, can stick it out - your marriage, your job, your studies or even life itself.
On this page I'll help you find the right kind of free or affordable services for you. I'll also explain why I unfortunately can't offer you any personal support or advice myself, however much I'd like to.
I may earn a commission from Better Help. You pay the same fee, regardless.
Every day I get requests from visitors to my site:
And many more requests like these.
I find it really hard that I can't respond to such calls for help with support and advice, because I so understand how frightened, hurt or angry you might be.
However, there are a couple of key reasons why I can't...
Counselling, whether it is free, affordable or fairly paid, requires the same commitment and investment from the practitioner in terms of:
... training (many years at significant costs)
... maintenance of registration
... regular clinical consultation/supervision (
... and time to be available for - and of use to - each and every client, be that face-to-face or by email.
Even if just one of those things is missing, it's likely that any counselling you receive won't be as beneficial for you as it could be.
Many a counsellor or psychotherapist offers time to a charitable organisation as well as running a private practice, or like I do - spends time offering free quality information in some other way.
I personally spend most of my working days developing my website and regularly adding new articles with advice for all kinds of problems. The majority of the information here is freely available, but this does mean I don't have any time left over to give high quality personalised advice.
Here's what would be required if I'd offer you counselling...
I would need to know tons about you if I were to be able to help you personally.
I'd have to ask you many questions to really understand how you (and your partner) feel and manage in your own particular situation: how you cope or not, what your hopes and dreams are. I would need to know the where, when and what of your behaviour (and that of your partner). You can perhaps imagine how much time that would take to do per email!
I have personally carefully reviewed a number of self-development and marriage/relationship products that are far more affordable in comparison with paid counselling services. Most of the ones I reviewed didn't cut it - the few that did I have made available for you via my website.
Helping and working on yourself (yes, I know it sounds boring, probably not what you want and possibly fluffy!) is the most affordable and effective way to bring about positive changes in your life! You may not even need any free or affordable counselling at all.
To be your own counsellor, all you need is - in no particular order:
Now, I suspect that you may need a bit of a head-start, and this is where I can help you because my website is packed full of information and advice.
So, do keep exploring the site!
Read all you can - even if you think it doesn't apply to you, because it can help 'embed' new knowledge. Reading and re-reading stuff helps you to remember it.
Spend time imagining how you'd apply the advice you read to your situation. Imagine yourself acting out the information in rich, detailed, movie-form - as if you're already in that situation.
Get additional help - connect with an online, professional, licensed therapist - you won't have to commit to lengthy ongoing sessions.
Now you know that unfortunately I personally can't offer you the help you need, have a look at my page on getting the right kind of counselling for you.
Here are some other ideas:
I do wish you all the very best for your future happiness. Remember - nothing lasts in life and this difficult time for you will pass too.
I really hope this article is of help to you. :-)
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Thank you so much in anticipation. :-)