In this article you'll find 5 unusual stress relief tips and 5 effective relaxation techniques. Choose between those with immediate effect and implement those which will help to protect you long-term.
It's my mission to get you to calm your anxiety and relax regularly not only to the benefit your mental well-being, but also your physical health and your relationship.
I'm going to give you 10 stress relief measures and include advice on how to prevent it spiralling out of control if there's no way of avoiding it. I've put them in order for you - from the simplest emergency stress relief tips to full-blown life-changing strategies.
Why would I, on my relationship advice site, be interested in stress reduction?
Well, our nearest and dearest are often the first to suffer when we're stressed because there's a direct link between anger and stress.
If you sleep badly because you're too stressed, you often make for a lousy mate the following day. Irritations you might normally dismiss can become more likely to anger you, which in turn can lead to emotional outbursts, pointless bickering and needless arguments. Sound familiar...?
Therefore, my stress relief tips will benefit both your and your partner's overall mental health and wellbeing - in body and mind.
Just in case you were searching for how to eliminate stress - forget it! I'm really sorry, but I'm going to have to disappoint you here... stress is part of every day life.
At one end of the scale it gets us out of bed in the morning. At the other end of the scale it can lead to murder. Somewhere in between we're potentially at our very best - loving, caring, feeling, creating, managing, celebrating, overcoming and surviving are all part of the richest experiences of our lives.
You really wouldn't want to dampen down the excitement and passion that potentially comes with those experiences - all of which include varying degrees of stress.
Stress in itself is not a problem - it's the length of time you're experiencing it and its intensity that can cause problems for your mental and physical health.
Let's get started then with my 10 stress relief tips each one of which I'll explain fully further down.
I used to have my clients calmed down in minutes with the following method...
Score again after this deep breathing exercise. How did you feel before and how do you feel now?
Here are 3 stress relief tips (yes, a couple of bonus points) for preventing pressure and tension turning into ever increasing levels of stress - in just 10 minutes:
Use self-hypnosis - it's so easy! Honestly, beyond the stress reduction tips I have already given you, I can't think of a better stress reduction technique. So, hop over now to my article on with Online Self-Hypnosis FAQ and Downloads to get the complete low-down on how it works.
That unfinished business, or admin, or those chores or whatever it is that's gnawing at you in the back of your mind... they're likely to be things you don't want to face for some reason. Taking action reduces worry, so here's the action you can take:
Go ahead and make that list right now. You can have these things done before the day is over and sleep better for it tonight.
It's time to deal with all that angst that you've been bottling up. Writing it down is in itself hugely therapeutic. No counselling or therapy needed - paper is patient, and non-judgemental too!
Have a look at my pages on communication for further help if you're struggling with opening up to your partner (see related articles).
If you're really stuck with some issues, I recommend you just take the plunge and talk to one of the Better Help licensed counsellors.
"Yeah right", I can hear you say! "If I had the time to do that then I wouldn't be on this page." And perhaps you don't like the new-age sound of this stress relief tip either.
I get that. However, if you do take the time out, you'll be much more productive and effective, and you'll achieve tons more in a shorter space of time. So, go ahead and make it work.
Tell the boss, the family, your staff or whoever that you need the time (and help them have some time too).
Take yourself off to the park, the woods, a beach or any other wild place without your phone, or a book or anything else. Lie in the grass, the sand or on the rocks and watch the clouds go by - do nothing. Walk on bare feet. 'Earthing' is one of my best tips to reduce stress fast. Even an hour would make a difference - calming you and reducing your blood pressure. Do yourself a favour and at the very least explore the earthing site (see Further Helpful Links).
Really? That's the best relationship advice you can give as a couples counsellor?
Yes! It may, for you, be one of the best stress relief tips. If you experience excessive levels of stress in your relationship it may just be time to end it. It may not be worth carrying on. Life is too short. You were meant to shine in this world and mean something to others. Don't allow your resources to be completely drained by the strain of a bad relationship (see my article on the signs of an abusive relationship).
Want some help with your decision?
Take my relationship test to help you decide if there's still a chance of saving your relationship. Discover what you would need to do or whether it's time to break up.
Have you made up your mind to end your relationship? I've several resources for you. See my page: Complete guide to breaking up your relationship or marriage.
The word 'trying' implies you'll never actually achieve what you're hoping for. There are two stress reduction strategies here - so you can take your pick:
Take action and gain some control over your situation and your feelings. This is one of the most essential stress relief tips, because getting back in the driver's seat is a really effective ways to manage stress.
Having a sense of control is one of our most essential emotional needs. Feeling you've completely lost grip on a situation can be enormously stressful and can lead to anxiety and depression. Don't wait for, or rely on, anyone else - do it yourself!
Take a look at my page: Self-hypnosis FAQ and downloads, as I think you'd benefit from some extra help.
It's vital that you and your partner meet your essential emotional needs in balance. Making sure that those needs are met is one of the very best ways to manage stress. It will maintain and improve both your mental well-being and your relationship and thereby indirectly relieve many of the stresses that are bothering you right now.
Have a look at my page on the human givens. You'll discover how you really can make a difference to each other by making the most of your inborn resources. Look after yourself, rediscover your inner strengths and feel more stable, calm and happy than you've ever felt before.
To help you look after yourself and inoculate yourself against stress, I've developed a worksheet below. You can download it here for free...
(There are more free worksheets on my page: Free stress management worksheets, including one for stress at work.)