It's time to sort the problem out before it leads to a complete marital or relationship breakdown.
This series of 3 articles...
... uncovers the causes
... helps you to talk about it
... tells you when to see a doctor
... has information on what to do and...
... what not to do
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Good communication is all important.
Your sexual relationship is one way of communicating your love and desire for each other. It is also a way to just enjoy yourself and eachother's company and as well as starting a family!
However, if talking in general, let alone about sex, is a problem, then do start with my other pages on communication, such as How To Stop Arguing.
I'll be here when you come back.
A sexless relationship or marriage can be due to all kinds of problems - physical and/or emotional.
Here are just a few examples, some of which you might recognise:
I am a qualified and experienced couple counsellor. By the time my clients come to see me, the lack of sex may have led to all kinds of other relationship problems.
Your physical relationship is a way of expressing yourself. You communicate for example your feelings of love, lust and desire... but also potentially anger and disgust.
You can see, then, that if the two of you are having problems communicating with each other in general, this is likely to happen in the bedroom too.
How easy it is to misinterpret each other is evident in the following example from my practice as a couple counsellor. This shows the link between a breakdown in communication and the associated effects on a sexual relationship...
Generally speaking, men more often want to have sex to feel close to their partner and, after an argument, to re-establish closeness... and this may well be misinterpreted!
Regardless of your sexual orientation or gender, a lack of sex could lead to you feeling rejected, sad, hurt, disappointed, frustrated or angry. These feelings in themselves can become a real barrier to building and maintaining a loving, satisfying sexual relationship. In other words - your perception of the problem can become a major contributing factor.
Read on to part 2 for further tips and advice for dealing with a sexless relationship.
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