Stay or go? Save or separate?

Are you (still) truly compatible or are you wasting your time?

Doubts about your relationship? Not sure if you should marry or stay married?

Looking for something or someone that could help you unscramble the muddle and doubts in your head, help you to sleep soundly again and stop you feeling that you're living a lie?

How do you know when your relationship is over, what the signs are that it's ending, or when it is time to break up?

Of course you want to be happy, you want to be able to love and be loved freely, without any qualms. That feeling that all is not well can be really scary and unsettling.

Here's my take on it...

You are as individual and as amazing as any star in the sky - there is no one in the world like you. You deserve to have a truly rewarding and happy relationship with someone just right for you, and so does your partner!

The question is... are you with that person right now? Or are you truly right for your partner?

Are you really being true to yourself in this relationship?

Can you be happy in it (again), or is it time to end it? Or are you dating and you're questioning whether you're compatible?

How to stop mulling over the same old problems

I understand that this can be an all-consuming dilemma. As a couples therapist I know only too well how much is at stake when you have invested so much hope and energy into your relationship or marriage.

It’s natural that when things aren't going as smoothly as you’d like, you're not as happy as you once was or hoped you would be, you can end up feeling unsure about the future.

But how on earth do you decide whether or not is is time to end your relationship?

I believe I can help you with this.

Together let's just start with what is happening for you right now...

Do you recognise yourself in any of the following?

Discontent is the first necessity of progress."

Albert Einstein
  • You're stuck in a rut and keep mulling over the same problems
  • You keep struggling on - pretending all is well
  • You keep spending more and more time imagining what life would be like if you left
  • You keep telling your partner what is bothering you, but it makes no difference
  • You suffer in silence, but find it increasingly difficult to be 'nice'
  • You ask friends, family or colleagues for advice
  • You're waiting for your partner to change
  • You worry that the two of you are no longer - or never were - truly compatible

Any of the above point to sufficient problems in your relationship for you to need to take action as soon as possible.

Why I want to help you

I get so many questions about whether or not to end a relationship. I also passionately believe that with a little bit more 'know how', understanding and empathy anyone can create a better relationship. All of the information here on my website stems from that belief. 

I understand that as human beings we all NEED to feel connected and cherished. My training and experience means I can be here to help you to successfully achieve this.

I am a qualified, BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) accredited and experienced couple counsellor.  I have helped well over 2000 individuals and couples. I gained my qualification with the largest and most respected expert UK couple counselling organisation, RELATE.

Yet I too found myself in your position many years ago. So, I know what it feels like. Sleepless nights, sadness, frustration, disappointments, hurt and indecision, because there was so much at stake.

Now you are perhaps in that place, or even if you're not so terribly unhappy, you've perhaps lost your passion.

Of course, you could try and 'make it work' - for a while at least - if you haven't already or...

Would a relationship or marriage compatibility test help you make a decision?

For sure a good relationship quiz would help you understand the bigger picture. It would help you see the things you may be blind to - that's the only way to get you out of that rut and forever mulling over the same problems.

A relationship test, to both assess your compatibility and chances of making it (again) together should...

  • focus your attention on not only your emotional needs, but also those of your partner or spouse
  • show you what is good, what is questionable and what are absolute deal-breakers in your relationship
  • help you find new ways to be really clear about what you actually want from your relationship
  • focus on issues that truly matter, not what your favourite food is and which famous person you want to invite to dinner

So, you just need to be sure that you are getting the right test - not one devised by someone with no knowledge of, or experience in, couples therapy (like so many online tests out there!) And not one with just ten questions either.

Could I help you with my relationship test?

Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it's a thing to be achieved."

William Jennings Bryan, 41st United States Secretary of State

I know that there are masses of people who are unsure if their relationship or marriage will ever work out. Many wonder if they'll ever be happy again. Yet all too many are not willing, ready or able to go for counselling (and even that doesn't always provide solution!).

Perhaps you too have tried to address the problems in your relationship or marriage. Maybe you've ended up feeling unhappy and trapped and for your own reasons are not able to go to counselling. Yet I'm sure you are still searching for answers.

I can help by providing you with a 'road map' - a marriage compatibility test I personally developed using my training and experience (personal and professional). Doing my test can help you decide if indeed it’s time to end your relationship or whether there is still hope of transforming it. Your answers to the questions enable you to make effective changes...

If you don't know what to do about your relationship, this test will tell you!

The right test can help you to start thinking more clearly.

The right test will help you to cut through the 'clutter' in your brain (if there is any clutter of course) and get you out of that rut.

Therefore I searched through several years’ worth of counselling notes to create and refine a comprehensive, simple but powerful relationship test or 'quiz'.

This comprehensive quiz will help you to….

  • shine a light on your blind-spots (which we all have!) to uncover vital information you may not have considered before
  • encourage you to take off those rose-tinted glasses if you find that you are a bit of a dreamer
  • demonstrate that the glass doesn’t always have to be half-empty - particularly useful if you've been focussing on all the negative stuff lately
  • stop you merely hoping things will change, when clearly they won't and replace hope with clear action points
  • help you to discover if you are actually in an abusive relationship
  • give you a general wake-up call, learning stuff that helps you to build better relationships where ever and with whom ever you are
  • help you define what you stand for and what you really need and want from an intimate couple relationship
  • open the door for you to decide the best way forward fast – to stay, or to walk away (remember that if you decide it’s time to break up this does NOT mean that you’ve ‘failed’)

You'll discover - step-by-step - what is really going on in your relationship or marriage (often it's not what you think is going wrong is!)

You'll find out whether or not the two of you really do have a chance of making it together, and why - or why not.

Moreover, if it's really time to move on, you'll be better prepared to make a success of a new relationship.

"It may show to some that actually, their problems aren't so bad, in the greater context."

Miriam Chachamu, Family Therapist, Trainer, speaker
Author of "How to Calm a Challenging Child", London

What will you lose?

I know that breaking up a committed relationship or marriage is oh so difficult and painful, whether or not you are the instigator.

It is even harder if you have children. You only have to imagine having to tell them what’s going to happen to know that it will cut right through your heart and their hearts.

Splitting up is also expensive as you may need to cover the cost of childcare, a house move resulting in two homes and cars, legal bills, maintenance payments and so on, possibly with reduced working hours. And remember the above mentioned therapist's fees.

Sadly all too often the break up is irreversible should you change your mind after all (and yes, that does happen!).  In addition an (potentially unnecessary) breakup can have a massive impact on your finances.

At least by taking this test you can feel totally secure that you have come to a decision with the best knowledge, awareness and understanding you have at this time. This is so important for your future happiness and also that of your children (I can assure you that they will ask questions - now or at some time in the future).

Is this relationship test right for you?

Could you answer any of the following questions with a "YES"?

  • Are there warning signs that your partner isn't happy?
  • Is your partner pushing for more commitment than you are ready for?
  • Are you worried you’re not compatible - sexually, emotionally, socially, spiritually?
  • Have you stopped laughing and talking together like you used to?
  • Do you have 'sexual relations' instead of making love - if indeed you have sex at all?
  • Are you living like 'brother and sister' or friends, without passion?
  • Does your head tell you to end it while your heart says that you want it to work - or vice versa?
  • Do you often feel hurt, let down, frustrated, angry or simply bored?
  • Are you nevertheless wishing and hoping it could work out?
  • Are you reluctant to end it because you still care for him or her?
  • Do you feel guilty for considering a separation because your partner is basically a 'good' person?
  • Do you feel torn between two people, as you're having an affair?
  • Do you think you have married the wrong person?
  • You are married or in a committed relationship, but you don't want to live the rest of your life like 'this'?

At the same time you may be worried about starting all over again, perhaps not finding anybody to share your life with or not being able to cope on your own.

So, if you answered "YES" to any of those questions then I believe you could do with finding out if your relationship really can't be saved. I hope you will let me help you with that by way of my relationship/marriage compatibility test.

How does it work?

You will get:

  • Comprehensive information on how to stop yourself making the wrong decision, and how to be as objective as possible under the circumstances
  • How to stop any mind-chatter that leads to to poor decision-making
  • How to generate alternative outcomes
  • How to get the most out of the test You will get a comprehensive set of quizzes, requiring only YES or NO answers, taking you through every aspect of your relationship.
    There’s no 'beating around the bush', no jargon, no 'personality' tests nor anything to do with statistics.
  • My advice based on your scores
  • 5 Additional quizzes to help you uncover what you are doing that is helpful and/or unhelpful and what your personal obstacles are to making the decision (they may not be what you think they are).

Time to break up? Decide in 90 minutes.

Take this test today and you will know if it is time to break up, separate and divorce, OR...  

... if there is hope for your relationship or marriage and where you need to direct your attention to transform it.


  • relief
  • clarity of mind


  • increased relationship knowledge and awareness
  • improved self-knowledge and awareness
  • confirmation of personal insights - your "I knew it" thoughts, but also...
  • new insights from shock, surprises and light-bulb moments
  • tips, advice and strategies on your next move
  • a sense of purpose and direction
  • the ability to make up your mind once and for all
  • the confidence that you can explain your point of view, wants, needs and decisions clearly if and when needed (not only to your partner, but also to your children, family and friends)

Who is this relationship tool not suitable for?

I'd hate to think you would waste your time (you won't be wasting money as I have a 100% money-back guarantee), so here is what I want you to know up front...

  • This test is not for you if you're not keen to learn, not interested in increasing your emotional intelligence nor open to new insights
  • It is probably also not for you if you are in the counselling professions and experienced in working with couples (though you could use this test with your clients), unless of course you are just curious or suspect that you could still learn something new).
  • If you want a 'validated' test, this is not for you either.


Guaranteed satisfaction? Absolutely!
100% Money Back if you're not completely happy - no questions asked.

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A year from now you may wish you had started today."

Karen Lamb, Author

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I totally stand behind the test's value and integrity. However, I accept it is not suitable for everyone (though the return rate is only 0.2%).

If you are not satisfied for any reason - no problem! 

I'll be more than happy to issue a refund. Just contact me here.

"A magnificent piece of work."

William Andrews, Senior Associate
International Center for Clinical Excellence

A relationship is about love, not the strength to stay with someone or not

If you are the kind of person who is really serious about building a stable, contented and loving relationship, this test is for you.

Compare this small investment ($21.99) to the emotional, mental, practical and financial cost of a potentially unnecessary breakup, separation and divorce, or a life wasted in a relationship that is just not working for you (or your partner)...

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