STAY OR WALK AWAY?

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Just by being here you are likely to be feeling at least some of the following:

unloved, out of love, bored, unappreciated, no longer admired, stressed, depressed, hurt or angry

The silent time-bomb

I can think of a number of reasons you are looking for advice to help you decide what to do.

Maybe the reason you have landed on this page is one (or more!) or the following:

you have been mulling over and worrying for some time whether you should end it OR ...
you've not dared really face up to the fact that your relationship is 'not working'
you are not sure that you love him/her anymore - you just 'don't feel the same' anymore
you have even been trying to put ending it off for as long as possible, pretending all is well OR ...
you have suffered a real 'blow' and you feel as if someone has put a knife in your heart
or you have fallen in love with someone else and you don't know what to do
you're planning your wedding or planning to move in together, but you are plagued by doubts

How on earth do you know how to move forward, when you are feeling stuck and probably very lonely ...?

Where are you going?

The doubts may have crept in very slowly or you have been dreadfully hurt once or once too often. Whatever has happened, you need to make a decision at some point, so it may as well be now ...

Just imagine ...

... what the emotional cost would be of waking up every morning, opening your eyes and realising that you are in the wrong relationship and going to bed every night feeling unhappy, unloved and/or unfulfilled?

... what it would be like to wake up next to the person you have truly chosen with all your heart for all the right reasons?

Imagine what a relief it would be if you could decide the future of your relationship today.

How could you make that happen and trust your decision?

Read on ...

because I can make that happen for you ...

"I had doubts about my relationship, but did not realise how big a mistake I would have made if it had not been for this test. Thank you!"

Suzanna G, NY

When is 'the right time' to end a relationship?

Answer: when you are sure - WITHOUT A DOUBT - that 'the negatives' outweigh 'the positives' ...

I can almost hear you say: "Yeah, right ... so much easier said than done". Each time that you have tried to assess that, your emotions have got in the way (even if you think they haven't!).

So, how on earth do you know when you have reached that point of no-return and you it's time to give up on your relationship or marriage?

Stick with me for a moment - I'll show you a way out of the woods ...

What do I know?

I trained and qualified with the largest and most respected UK couple counselling agency RELATE.

I have over 23 years experience as a qualified couple/relationship counselor. I have done more than 8000 sessions helping couples and individuals through difficult times, making tough decisions and moving on to better times - together or apart.

I became aware of how much knowledge was 'in my head' and how many more people I could help if I made that knowledge available right here.

For three months I trailed through my extensive counselling notes. I wrote, revised and rewrote a series of laser-sharp questions based on my extensive experience and research. These questions focus on all the stuff that in my expert opinion make a relationship great or potentially a sad mistake. No jargon, no personality tests, no guessing, but a trail-blazing relationship compatibility test.

Time to call it a day?

I guess you won't want to wake up one morning realising that you have wasted years of your life being in the wrong relationship/marriage (I have heard that one all too often).

Neither will you want to be giving yourself a hard time in years to come for having broken up with someone for all the wrong reasons (I have seen plenty clients who have!).

Chances are ... you are feeling stuck or trapped - perhaps changing your decision to stay or leave depending on:

your or your partner's mood
what is happening between of you at the time
how courageous you happen to feel at the moment
how good other parts of your life are

Whatever you decide is likely to depend on what your heart, your head or your gut tells you at any one time.

Just making that decision, let alone plucking up the courage to have that gut-wrenching conversation is the stuff of nightmares.

So, what can you do? What would at least give you the motivation to either commit or go?

How can you be sure that you have covered everything in your deliberations, that you haven't left anything to chance?

An expert compatibility test is the only sure way that you can say 'hand on heart' - you have truly taken everything into consideration, you have made a decision you feel able to stand by.

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Why do a relationship test?

Here is why ...

you would end those whirring thoughts by following a step-by-step guide with powerful questions
you would quickly get to grips with all the issues by effortlessly identifying potential trouble-spots
you stop wasting your time and energy by effortlessly zeroing in on the underlying problems
you could potentially prevent future nasty surprises by figuring out your partner's real motivations
rather than 'yo-yoing' between decisions depending on whether you feel 'up' or 'down', cut through the emotions and indecision - get to the stone-cold facts, which may shock or surprise you

Can you imagine what you would gain?

What would it be like if either:

... you were excited about being with your partner/spouse again no longer wondering if it is right, but able to commit, enjoy, love again, OR ...

... you felt able to move on, leave it all behind and expand your horizons if your marriage/relationship really can't be saved

You would finally being able to have the relationship you want - present or new or be by yourself for a while without having to endure the stress of recent times, so that you can heal

Truly ... if you cannot find it within yourself to really commit for the right reasons, nobody is going to be served if you just 'hang on'not you, nor your partner/spouse!

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Do you really need a questionnaire to decide?

Well ... you really have three choices:

Choice # 1 - Counselling (couple counseling/therapy or individual counselling)
Choice # 2 - Getting advice from family and friends
Choice # 3 - Doing a serious relationship test/quiz - one you can trust

Choice # 1 is the best. Of course I would like you to consult a good couple counsellor, but I appreciate counselling isn't for everyone.

You and I know the problem with Choice # 2 - family and friends are all biased - however well intentioned, they cannot help but think of their own needs too.

That leaves Choice # 3.

Just see how many of the following questions you would answer with a YES to find out if you are likely to benefit from doing a relationship quiz:

Are there warning signs that your partner isn't happy ?
Does everything seem okay on the surface, but deep down you feel something isn't right?
Are you feeling trapped/'hemmed in'/suffocated?
Is your partner pushing for more commitment than you are ready for?
Are you having second thoughts about getting married or moving in?
Do arguments only lead to temporary improvements, if any at all?
Have you been losing sleep about it all?
Have you already started to withdraw from your partner?
Are you living 'brother and sister' or like friends, but with little else?
Have you been trying to hide your doubts?
Have you been pretending that you are okay and blamed your being 'different' on something else?
Have you tried to finish already - perhaps even a number of times?
Have you found yourself increasingly imagining what life would be like without him/her?
Have you been less than 'nice' in the hope your partner would end it?
Does your head tell you to end, but in your heart you want it to work - or vice versa?
Have you kept hanging on, because you are frightened of being on you own again?
Have you been feeling guilty for wanting to break up because you don't want to hurt your partner?
Do you not want to be seen as the one that broke up the relationship/marriage?

Answering just a couple of these critical questions with a YES would be reason enough to consider getting some kind of expert input.

However, if you have answered several questions with a YES - without a doubt you would benefit from doing my relationship compatability test.

The risk of not doing anything

I have counselled a huge number of people worried about the state of their relationship and what to. Many came too late:

their partner unexpectedly announced that he/she want to break up - meaning that the available options were now not of their own choosing
their partner had started an affair
they came years beyond the time that they first knew their relationship was turning into a disappointment - too late for relationship therapy to make any difference

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The easiest way to decide on your future

Here are the subjects covered - giving you a unique chance to 'look' at your relationship/partner from every angle, as I have done with thousands of individuals and couples.

I have worked out for you what questions you should be asking your partner, so that you don't miss a thing. Each section has a number of very 'to-the-point' questions (or as one client described them: 'no bull-shit' questions!).

A. Are you in an abusive relationship? B. 'Basic' stuff with potential negative consequences C. What could really make you unhappy D. What really matters to you personally E. Avoiding financial trouble F. Sex - boredom and trouble or interest and excitement G. Commitment H. Communication nightmares I. Time for yourself J. Your friends K. Your work - your future L. Trust issues M. Issues with extended family N. Handing the power to you O. Coping with the past P. Your future Q. Support for each other R. 'Blending' families S. Could you still turn it around? T. What is really stopping you from ending?

The problem with 'dithering' and not making up your mind

Whether you stay or walk away, it is vital that you are totally convinced that you are doing it for the right reasons. Why?

If by any chance you plucked up the courage to have that heart-wrenching conversation with your partner, but deep down you still have doubts, the following is likely to happen (if it hasn't already):

you may 'chicken out' at the last moment - you just won't be able to see it through
you won't sound convincing - how can you?
your doubt will 'leak out' in your body language and in the way you offer your reasons for ending
your partner is likely to convince you that he/she is going to change/will do anything to sort it all out, be the person you want her/him to be
it will be all too easy for you to feel guilty, awkward, embarrassed and give up, unable to face it
you'll change your mind at the first sign of your partner's distress
you may be persuaded to give the relationship another chance, even though you know it's not going to work
you may keep putting the ending off, but not give the relationship a real chance, so you'll have achieved absolutely nothing, but you'll have to cope with a now very (even more) insecure partner
You'll have to start all over again another time!

The sooner you act, the sooner you can both recover - together or apart - and get on with the rest of your life.

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What would you do with the results?

You will discover which issues can be resolved over time and which are likely to be relationship wreckers and 'deal-breakers' for you.

Not only that - I have suggestions about what your next step should/could be, based on the outcome of your test.

You may find, after doing my relationship test, that it is worth saving your relationship. If so, you'll be very clear about who needs to do what and what needs to happen for things to change for the better.

What other people say

"A magnificent piece of work and very thought provoking indeed."

William Andrews, Senior Associate
International Center for Clinical Excellence

"Before getting to the point of no-return and commit yourself, this questionnaire can help you to know your partner better. It touches on things you may never have talked about before!"

Ana Maria
Miami (FLA)

"It may show to some that actually, their problems aren't so bad, in the greater context."

Miriam Chachamu, Family Therapist, Trainer, speaker and
author of 'How to calm a challenging child'
London

What do you get?

You will get a customised - clear and easy to use - quiz for the most accurate answers: either a YES or NO (I give instructions about what to do if you can't answer).

No drama, no 'beating around the bush', no jargon, no 'personality' tests or anything that sounds like a statistic - it is all personal to you, your partner and your situation.

What will it achieve?

relief on discovering that some of your 'issues' may be relatively insignificant and can be sorted OR
clarity, backed up by evidence, that your relationship/marriage has irretrievably broken down
peace of mind and clear direction either way