Doubts about your relationship? Looking for something or someone that could help you unscramble the muddle and doubts in your head, help you to sleep soundly again and stop you feeling that you're living a lie?
How do you know when your relationship is over, what the signs are that it's ending, or when it is time to break up?
Of course you want to be happy, you want to be able to love and be loved freely, without any qualms. That feeling that all is not well can be really scary and unsettling.
Here's my take on it...
You are as individual and as amazing as any star in the sky - there is no one in the world like you. You deserve to have a truly rewarding and happy relationship with someone just right for you.
The question is... are you with that person right now?
Are you really being true to yourself in this relationship?
Can you be happy in it (again), or is it time to end it? Or are you dating and you're questioning whether you're compatible?
I understand that this can be an all-consuming dilemma. As a couples therapist I know only too well how much is at stake when you have invested so much hope and energy into your relationship or marriage.
It’s natural that when things aren't going as smoothly as you’d like, you're not as happy as you once was or hoped you would be, you can end up feeling unsure about the future.
But how on earth do you decide wether or not is is time to end your relationship?
I believe I can help you with this.
Together let's just start with what is happening for you right now...
Discontent is the first necessity of progress."
You probably already know that none of these strategies are helping you to get you what you want, or letting you resolve the problems in any way!
Whether you’re feeling hurt, bored, trapped, suffocated or unsure for any other reason, the right help and advice can be hard to come by and is all too often biased. Yet your happiness, that of your partner and any children you may have all depend on the right guidance.
You deserve to be happy, and I want to help you to achieve this.
I passionately believe that with a little bit more 'know how', understanding and empathy anyone can create a better relationship. All of the information here on my website stems from that belief.
I understand that as human beings we all NEED to feel connected and cherished. My training and experience means I can be here to help you to successfully achieve this.
I am a qualified, BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) accredited and experienced couple counsellor. I have helped well over 2000 individuals and couples. I gained my qualification with the largest and most respected expert UK couple counselling organisation, RELATE.
Yet I too found myself in your position many years ago. So, I know what it feels like. Sleepless nights, sadness, frustration, disappointments, hurt and indecision, because there was so much at stake.
Now you are perhaps in that place, or even if you're not so terribly unhappy, you've perhaps lost your passion.
Of course, you could try and 'make it work' - for a while at least - if you haven't already or...
For sure a good relationship quiz would help you understand the bigger picture. It would help you see the things you may be blind to.
A relationship test, to both asses your compatibility and chances of making it (again) together should...
So, you just need to be sure that you are getting the right test - not one devised by someone with no knowledge of, or experience in, couples therapy (like so many online tests out there!) And not one with just ten questions either!
Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it's a thing to be achieved."
William Jennings Bryan, 41st United States Secretary of State
I know that there are masses of people who are unsure if their relationship or marriage will ever work out. Many wonder if they'll ever be happy again. Yet all too many are not willing, ready or able to go for counselling (and even that doesn't always provide solution!).
Perhaps you too have tried to address the problems in your relationship or marriage. Maybe you've ended up feeling unhappy and trapped and for your own reasons are not able to go to counselling. Yet I'm sure you are still searching for answers.
I can help by providing you with a 'road map' - a marriage compatibility test I personally developed using my training and experience (personal and professional). I can help you decide if indeed it’s time to end your relationship or whether there is still hope of transforming it.
The right test can give you a starting point to help you think clearly and cut through the 'clutter' in your brain (if there is any clutter of course).
Therefore I searched through several years’ worth of counselling notes to create and refine a comprehensive, simple but powerful relationship test or 'quiz'.
This comprehensive quiz will help you by….
You'll discover - step-by-step - what is really going on in your relationship or marriage (often it's not what you think is going wrong is!)
You'll find out whether or not the two of you really do have a chance of making it together, and why - or why not.
I know that breaking up a committed relationship or marriage is oh so difficult and painful, whether or not you are the instigator.
It is even harder if you have children. You only have to imagine having to tell them what’s going to happen to know that it will cut right through your heart and their hearts.
Splitting up is also expensive as you may need to cover the cost of childcare, a house move resulting in two homes and cars, legal bills, maintenance payments and so on, possibly with reduced working hours. And remember the above mentioned therapist's fees.
Sadly all too often the break up is irreversible should you change your mind after all (and yes, that does happen!). In addition an (potentially unnecessary) breakup can have a massive impact on your finances.
At least by taking this test you can feel totally secure that you have come to a decision with the best knowledge, awareness and understanding you have at this time.
Could you answer any of the following questions with a "YES"?
If you answered yes to any of those questions then I believe for sure that you could do with finding out what is standing in the way of your happiness, and I hope you will let me help you with that by way of my marriage compatibility test.
You will get:
Take this test today and you will know if it is time to break up, separate and divorce, OR...
... if there is hope for your relationship or marriage and where you need to direct your attention to transform it.
All of this is invaluable in helping you get through to your partner!
I'd hate to think you would waste your time, so here is what I would want you to know up front...
Any questions? CLICK HERE.
A year from now you may wish you had started today."
Karen Lamb, Author
"This is exactly what I was after, a simple to understand key to unlocking the mess that was my mind and putting it to more productive use!"
"A magnificent piece of work."
William Andrews, Senior Associate
International Center for Clinical Excellence
"A must for anyone unhappy in their relationship."
"I'm very glad I did it, it helped me decide on the next steps."
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