You and your partner deserve a great sexual relationship. This can of course be difficult if you are suffering from male low libido. Therefore I so hope the information here will help you to boost your sex drive.
And I’m glad you’re here – it means that you want to find a way to resolve the problem. You might have been feeling that you’ve let your partner down lately… but of course you’re probably suffering too.
First of all, I would absolutely want you to talk to your doctor about your lack of libido - there’s no need to be embarrassed about it at all. I can imagine you're shaking your head right now though.
BTW - if you suffer from erectile dysfunction, hop over to Part 3 to find a way to cure ED.
Low libido in a male can be caused by a physical condition, emotional problems (or both of course) and / or medication - much the same as in women. (If you’re interested, you could also have a look at How to Increase Libido for Women if you have a female partner who is struggling too.)
Over the years since I qualified as a couple counsellor I’ve seen far more women who complain about a lack of desire. I've not counselled many men who’ve told me freely that they cannot be bothered with sex anymore – maybe because they are too embarrassed, proud or shy.
In fact, I’m usually told of the problem with sex drive by their partner or wife. Men are much less likely to seek help - even from a doctor, let alone from a counsellor – so the problem isn’t reported nearly as often as it occurs.
FROM MY PRACTICE
Alice was convinced Geoff was having an affair. She had done all she could to find out if he was cheating on her.
The truth was that Geoff had not turned off from her, but turned into himself because he felt increasingly unable to cope at work.
Needless to say he wasn't feeling very lustful either! And Alice had drawn the wrong conclusion. If only they had found a way to talk about all this sooner.
Below, and in Part 2, you can find the most likely causes of your low libido.
Understanding what’s causing your problem will help you to take action right away - to either correct it yourself, or have a conversation with your doctor.
In the case of the latter, being well-informed will help you to be more assertive about the kind of solution or advice you would like.
No, surprisingly it isn't according to Australian researchers at the University of Adelaide. They discovered that depression and life-style factors, not your age, cause a decline in testosterone*. This in turn leads to a drop in sex drive.
Until we learned about the outcome of this study we thought that men over the age of 40 would have to expect a drop in testosterone.
There are many kinds of medication that can have a severe impact on male sex drive.
Stress and depression are the most common causes of a lack of desire in men. I have on this site all the information you need to bring yourself back up again if you feel depressed or stressed.
I know you might be feeling really rubbish if you are stressed or depressed, but I really want you to do something about it now.
You can find links further down the page to other resources on this site that will help you to deal with depression. Please don’t delay any longer – avoiding issues will only mean that they will catch up with you at some point… and there is never a convenient time for that.
If you are suffering from depression or anxiety do let me help you to explore how you can get yourself better without taking antidepressant medication. One of the side effects of antidepressants is a decrease in sex drive.
To help lift your spirits sooner rather than later have a look at the Hypnosis Full Depression Recovery Method.
Or you can speak to an expert counsellor right now.
Work related stress, anxiety and relationship problems can all play a part in male low libido. Have a look at Part 2 for an in-depth explanation of more causes, and Ways to Increase Male Libido.
*Endocrine Society. Declining testosterone levels in men not part of normal ageing. ScienceDaily, 23 Jun. 2012, via ScienceDaily
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