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Knowing how
to deal with rejection - what to do about it - will help you
to cope and recover quicker. However, if you feel rejected -
by an ending, by infidelity, by criticism, by being 'brushed off'
or by being ignored - having some understanding, and some
strategies to see you through can be a real lifeline.
I imagine you are feeling really hurt right now. I hope I am going to be able to help you discover how to cope with rejection, and stop it happening again. You may therefore also want to explore links further down, such as How to get over a relationship, cheating, insomnia, depression, dealing with criticism, etc.
Alternatively, your relationship may not have right for some time and deep down you may have been expecting a major fall-out. Perhaps you have been puzzled why your partner has changed. Maybe you thought what he/she was having a bit of a rough time, or perhaps you suspected an affair. I would therefore suggest you take my relationship test - see: End relationship quiz
Feeling hurt, angry, disappointed, let down are normal feelings
when you feel rejected - no wonder your self-esteem suffers.
You reactions will to some degree depend on your specific circumstances of course. The way in which you found out that you are no longer wanted or loved will also have a bearing.
However, the following ‘normal’ reaction is what I would
generally expect to see in anyone who has just been given really
bad news: 
These symptoms are likely to slowly disappear in the following days, possibly replaced by a sense of gloom, sadness and lack of interest in anything.
After a couple of weeks you should begin to see some light again. Very slowly the periods that you feel a little better will become more frequent and they will last longer. Between 4 to 6 weeks you will be getting on with things again, feeling you are beginning to make a recovery. 'Good' days may still be intermingled with really lousy days, but you are on the road to recovery.
On the whole - men recover quicker than women. Their memory is not as geared up to hold on to emotionally laden material - on a scale of course and it is very possible that the reaction is reversed in your case.
As
human beings we have a strong need to feel secure. You feel your sense of security is
threatened; you may feel abandoned, scared and/or hopeless.
Feeling so rejected, perhaps abandoned, it is understandable that you feel insecure. You maybe wondering when the next 'blow' with bad news, painful emotions, will come and from which direction.
It is important that you don’t start to worry about feeling 'fragile' as well – I expect it to happen - it is completely 'normal' right now. That sense of impending doom will eventually disappear.
If you are married and you facing a divorce, you are likely to encounter more events that can completely unsettle you. Each one will require time to process and heal.
If you have felt badly led down in previous relationships - however old you were and for whatever reason, rejection now may fuel your feeling that you are not worth having someone special.
It may also be that you have felt rejected over a period of time - perhaps in the bedroom, or by your partner/spouse generally treating you with contempt.
If that sense of worthlessness does not pass, please promise me that you find some professional help. Counselling can really help you to 'find yourself' again and discover how to deal with rejection, because it is part of life.
If counselling is not an option for you - for whatever reason - I can think of no better way than self hypnosis online. I am very happy being able to recommend the HypnosisDownloads.com people to help sooth you and help you regain your sense of self. Learn how to (re)build your self-esteem via my page hypnosis online FAQ.
If your partner/spouse is having/has had an affair, it is understandable that you worry what on earth is wrong with you. Perhaps you have become acutely aware of your perceived 'short-comings'. I really get that.
There hasn't been a client in your position who hasn't gone through the same turmoil, when they came to me to find out how to deal with rejection.
However, right now you need to give yourself a really good talking to, because:
I have chosen a hypnosis track to help you with your
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If you are in a committed (long-term) relationship/married and feel rejected, than the download Mend Your Broken Heart would help you to recover fast.
These hypnosis downloads are a tremendous help when you want to get over the pain of rejection. If you feel you have been 'replaced', pushed away, treated with contempt, undermined, 'passed over', ignored, not listened to, not understood - you will want to know how to stop feeling so hurt in the shortest possible time.
Now ... if you feel pushed away, second best or 'replaced' because your partner is having an affair/has left you for someone else - you need another plan of action. Visit my page: How to get your ex back for further information.
It can be terribly hurtful to feel rejected in an important relationship or by someone you would have wanted a relationship with.
There is no point in my suggesting positive affirmations! They are unlikely to work at the best of times, let alone when you are desperate to find out how to deal with rejection.
If the rejection has been a shock, see yourself through the initial couple of weeks as best as you can – ideally with the help of friends and family. When you are over the initial shock the following suggestions may help:
When you want to know how to deal with rejection, you need to make a plan for yourself. Write down in your diary what you are going to do differently for every day of the week.
Dealing with rejection can be really difficult, but having to find ways to handle rejection is part of life. You will get through it.
Any relationship advice on how to deal with rejection should include strategies for rebuilding your self-esteem. This is what you can do:
You now know a little more about how to deal with rejection now. Decide for yourself what you need to do next. Make a plan with an action list, specifying dates and times.
Fine-tune your relationship and lift your spirits!
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