You may just need the best relationship advice when you have some relationship questions. Or you want to get the best professional advice possible to try and save your relationship or marriage if your relationship is in real trouble.
In this article I'll cover what kind of relationship advice you should avoid at all cost, who you might want to turn to and what you need to consider when you want to consult a professional for expert advice on relationships.
I am a (couple) counsellor with over 23 years experience and I am still helping individuals and couples make the most of their relationships every day.
I have written most of the articles on this site myself, but I make it clear when you are reading a guest article.
First of all I would really like you to try and tune into your own intuition. You will know keep down when you are ill-advised. You'll be questioning yourself, wondering - even if you cannot immediately put your finger on it - you have a sense that something is wrong. You might love to go with the advice you have been given, because it is what you want to hear. Yet you can't help feeling a little 'niggle' that something about it is not quite right.
Secondly, you will need to consider if the advice you have been given is biased or unbiased advice on relationships. I'll explain, but before I do - a word or two about who you should definitely not ask for advice ...
Do yourself a favour, do not take any advice from someone, family or friends, if:
It is real a gift if you have friends and family members who are really supportive and keen to help. However, the decisions you make and what happens to you will affect them too. Most of these wonderful people therefore, are likely to offer you guidance and counsel that is biased without their necessarily being consciously aware of that. That means that their suggestions, relationship tips or warnings are likely to be somewhat 'coloured' by self-interest.
So, when you seek relationship advice, by all means speak to friends and family - in fact I think it is a very good idea to share your troubles. However, just be aware that their direction and advice to you may be biased.
People who are not directly involved with you are more likely able to offer unbiased relationship advice. It has no bearing on them what you decide to do, they won't be affected regardless of the outcome of your decisions.
So, where do you go for that kind of counsel?
Not withstanding all that I mentioned before, you may well be fortunate enough to have one of those wonderful 'souls' amongst people you know who is able to respond to your need without much of their personal 'stuff' colouring their advice.
These rare individuals will have enough self-awareness to ensure that their perceptions and opinions don't get in the way of the advice and guidance they offer you.
In general though, the kind of person who is likely to be most helpful to you:
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Personally, I am really fortunate that I have people in my social and professional circle who I can turn to. However, I so realise that not everyone has that opportunity.
So, who do you turn to particularly for relationship advice if you don't have access to anyone with the above qualities?
You may want to consider getting advice from a professional. So, let's have a look at what kind of relationship advice you need.
Here is a list of the various professional services or other resources you might want to turn to:
Once you have defined exactly what kind of counsel you need, you can set about finding the best person or resource to help you.
Sometimes it is helpful to discuss relationship issues with a
personal counsellor. This is more helpful, at least
initially, if you feel that your problems stem from adverse
circumstances when you were a child. It would also be best
option if you have questioned your relationship compatibility
right from the start of your relationship.
I can certainly help you with personal counseling via Skype or by telephone. Couple counselling, however, works best when both partners are present in the counselling room, so I don't offer couple counselling over the telephone.
For all your other relationship questions - I have a huge number of relationship advice articles on my site, covering stress and your relationship, infidelity, ending relationships, as well as dealing with criticism, rejection, sexual problems and arguments. I'm sure you'll find it useful, so browse my pages when you need relationship advice or share links on your favourite social network or forum.
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