Have you been wondering if what you're experiencing are the signs of an abusive relationship? Abusive men (and women) set out to ensure that their victims suffer in silence.
Are you married to an abusive spouse? Are you in a relationship with an abusive boyfriend? Are you the man who doesn't dare to talk about the abuse suffered at the hands of the woman who is supposed to love him? Although women are far more likely to suffer at the hands of abusive men, women too can be the perpetrators of domestic violence (yes, truly - see link below).
You might love as much as you can, and adjust your behaviour to whatever they demand (which changes all the time, so you'll never 'win') - but the truth is you're in an abusive relationship.
How come? I am hoping to help you with information on what the signs of a bad relationship are.
It's no wonder you were 'fooled', whether you realise that now or not. And no, you're not stupid - it could have happened to anyone!
Often the abuser only reveals his true self only over time. (Over 85% of abusers are men, so read he or she depending on your situation.) He probably was your 'knight in shining armour' - charming, caring, sensitive and loving - early on.
Then slowly the 'innocent' questions and comments begin. Why would you want to go out or stay in touch with so-and-so? Why would you want to be engaged in this or that activity? You'll soon be questioning this yourself and/or starting to feel guilty about wanting anything at all.
On the next page you'll find the all the signs that your man (or woman) is verbally, emotionally, sexually and/or mentally abusive - confirmation of whether or not you're in an unhealthy and abusive relationship.
I suspect you won't really be surprised to see your fears confirmed - finally. You probably didn't even realise you were in an abusive relationship during the first two stages of seduction and isolation. So, take a deep breath and read on...
CDC - Intimate partner violence: Definitions