I am so glad you reached out to me for help with your relationship. I know it can be so utterly frustrating and frightening to find yourself in deep waters. Chances are you are feeling very alone with it all.
I suspect you're unhappy right now and I just want to say to you, very gently and lovingly, that this too will pass.
I am giving you some action steps right here to get you to make some positive changes right away...
9-Step Emergency Relationship Recovery Plan
Here is my advice to help you start to resolve your relationship problems:
- It is vitally important that calm yourself down as much as possible in whichever way you feel comfortable with. You will gain a much wider perspective and a better problem solving mindset.
- There is no emergency (unless you are in an abusive relationship) so give yourself time!
- Remember that you cannot control your partner, however much I understand that you might want to (and believe me - I too had to work really hard to resist the temptation!)
- Click the link to your specific problem on: 25 Common Relationship Problems.
- Give yourself credit for having coped so far. Resolve that whatever life brings you - you can deal with it.
- Remind yourself of three things you are grateful for in your life every night before you go to sleep.
- Remind yourself of three positive things about your partner, so that you don't become completely fixed on what you don't like about him or her.
- Continue reading my free online relationship advice articles to improve your self-awareness and relationship skills.
- Speak to a qualified online relationship counsellor (this is a fee-based service) or...
- ... see my page on help with emotional problems for emergency helplines.
There you are - that is your start. Commit to these action steps straight away, so that you can feel that you're moving forward.
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I wish you all the best for your future happiness.