When a relationship ends

Part 1, Part 2, Part 3

I so know how painful it can be when a relationship ends. And how do you know what to do next?

(In case you're looking for advice on how to end your relationship, do hop over to Part 1 of this article first for help on this.)

Click here if you've landed here via a search engine mistake and you're looking for help with getting over someone or other break-up advice.

Now for that tricky question...

...should you stay in touch?

I had a client who couldn't understand that his wife wouldn't let him introduce the children to his new girlfriend.

He had left the family home and moved in with his new girlfriend only the day before!

So, you've broken the news. Phew! Now what? Do you stay in touch or not? To some extent it depends on your circumstances.

After the break up, you might realise that you may need to stay in touch with your ex (although it's likely that you won't be able to become friends for a while yet).

This is how long you'll have to stay in touch with your ex...

... for a relatively limited period of time if you have to divide your possessions
... much longer if you have to sell your home and divide assets
... for the rest of your life(!) If You Have Children

See also: Staying in Touch and Remaining Friends with Your Ex.

So there you have it! You now know how to break up with someone in the most compassionate and reasoned way. There is of course much more to it, so do explore my other pages on endings and divorce to make sure you don't make it more difficult for you, your partner (and your children) than it already has to be. 

It is so worth making the effort to break up in the 'best' possible way, to preserve each other’s dignity and help you both move forward with your lives again once the relationship is over.

Do yourself a favour...

Smiling woman. Relief!

There's really no shame in needing a bit of help when you're feeling sore or unsure. Of course you'll get through this difficult time, but why torture yourself?

Self-hypnosis with an hypnosis download will do the trick. It is discreet, user-friendly and cost-effective.

Have a look at my Self-hypnosis FAQ and Downloads (there's a super download about ending a relationship!).

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