Stress, whether from inside or outside your relationship, is likely to affect the way you think, feel and behave. This invariably impacts on your partner and your relationship - creating a vicious circle. If you're dealing with relationship stress, I'm so glad you've landed here. I can help you to manage this.
Relationship stress can be caused by a drip-drip effect of, for example:
It can also come about as a result of a crisis, such as an affair, sudden illness, the death of a loved one or other family problems.
Avoiding issues can provide temporary relief, but this may lead in the long-term to a buildup of stress, and reduced resilience when you're confronted with stressful situations.
I'm sure you're aware that there are physical consequences too - the impact of stress can make you ill.
Watch this video to learn more...
You and/or your partner may be suffering from stress from external sources. Ultimately, you are each responsible for your own recovery.
If you blame your partner, other people or the situation, you can get trapped in feelings of helplessness and hopelessness. This is unhealthy as you end up wasting precious energy on things you have no control over, instead of focusing on the things you do.
Ideally you'd offer each other emotional and practical support. If your partner appears unable to help and/or support you, try not to judge them. If this is out of character for them, then it may be that your partner's own well-being is not so good at the moment. When you are feeling stressed it can feel as though everybody, including your partner, is out to make life difficult for you!
However, here are some potential alternative explanations...
In any case, I would advice you to get my Stop Arguing, Start Talking Relationship Makeover Kit. It will help you have more enjoyable, deeper and meaningful conversations - not about the problems.
When you get to the point where you just don't want to go home at the end of a working day, or you dread your partner coming through the door, your relationship just won't be satisfying any more.
If there are problems in your relationship or marriage, now is the time to sort them out. Continuing to do what you've always done is not going to change anything. I'm afraid wishful thinking will only lead to further relationship stress.
I'd really advise you to consider getting professional help from an experienced couple counsellor if this is your situation. Even if your partner doesn't want to go, you still can - and at the very least you won't feel so alone any more. It can be hugely helpful to discuss, in confidence, what is happening with an expert.
You can telephone, email or chat with an online qualified relationship counsellor right now.
There is also much you can do right now that can make a difference. Firstly we’ll look at things that you can do, and then we’ll look at ways that you can support your partner.
Also, you may like to have a look at my page on online hypnosis frequently asked questions. Self-hypnosis is such a great way to help reduce and even cure many a problem.
You are each on a continuum between introvert and extrovert. Try to work towards a balance to avoid the risk of becoming polarised as that will certainly increase relationship stress.
I can do no better than let you watch Bruce Feiler's presentation on building happy families. Oh, how I wish I had seen this when I was bringing up my son. It would have SO reduced all our stress levels.
If you and your partner have very different ways of dealing with your offspring, you are potentially making life more stressful for each other. This will help...
You're unlikely to be able to eliminate all stresses in your marriage or relationship. However, since relationship problems are one of the biggest causes of stress, I'm sure you'll agree that it makes sense to deal with them.
Instead of hoping and wishing, why not get some counselling? It'll be a relief to be able to talk things through with someone completely independent. Help is just a phone call away.
Nothing lasts forever in life - not the good times and not the bad times. I know that you can work towards resolving the issues and keep chipping away at the stress in your relationship.
Do what you can to become the person you want to be.
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