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will be helping you to manage your relationship stress,
whether or not it is caused by problems in your relationship or by
external sources.
Relationship stress can be caused by a drip-drip effect of, for example, never-ending criticism, shouting, arguments, abuse, etc. It can also come about as a result of a crisis, such as an affair, illness, the death of a loved one or other family problems.
Avoiding issues can provide temporary relief, but they may lead to long-term trouble.
Stress, whether from inside or outside your relationship/marriage, is likely to affect the way you think, feel and behave. This invariably impacts on your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend - it becomes a vicious circle. I am sure you are aware that there are physical consequences - the impact of stress can make you ill.
If this page does not provide you want you are looking for, then scroll down to the bottom of the page for links to related pages.
Alternatively, if it definitely is your relationship that is needs sorting, than I can thoroughly recommend: Save My Marriage/Relationship. Be aware: Lee Baucom PhD doesn't have much time for poorly trained couple counsellors. However, I am glad to report that I have received the best training and am fully qualified with the most prestigious couple counselling agency in the UK: RELATE, where the focus was definitely not just on communication.
However, if you think that your partner is causing you just too much stress, always has done and always will do, then you may be wondering how long you can carry on in this relationship.
If you are doubting your relationship or are not sure that you can remain married, then I would advice you to do my relationship test. You will find a way forward, either by discovering the things you may be able to improve or by realising that there is no longer a future for your relationship/marriage.
You and/or your partner or spouse may be suffering from stress from external sources. Each of you is ultimately responsible for your own recovery. If you blame your partner, other people or ‘the situation’, you get trapped into feeling helpless and hopeless. You also waste precious energy on stuff you have no control over.
Ideally you would offer each
other emotional and practical support. Have you, or has he or she
asked? Neither of you are mind readers!
If he/she appears unable to help and/or support, try not to judge it. It may be that, without your necessarily knowing, your partner/spouse's own well-being is not good.
Maybe that unbeknown to you there are adverse family circumstances or stress at work, that they had not wanted to burden you with. I know from my work with police officers, for instance, that they would often not want to tell their partner what they have been involved in as it can be too distressing.
It could also be that he/she interprets your grumpiness as your being angry with him/her. You may have appeared over-critical. I know that when you are stressed that everything seems just too much and everybody seems out to make life difficult for you!
If you are supporting your partner, be sure to state what is and what is not OK for you.Suffering from stress long-term may come at a cost to your relationship/marriage. It is vital therefore that you keep the channels of communication open.
If
there are problems in your relationship or marriage, now
is the time to sort them out. Continuing to do what you have
always done is not going to change anything. Wishful
thinking will only lead to further relationship stress.
Constant arguing, feeling unheard, feeling rejected, infidelity, disagreements over chores, sexual problems, all lead to further stress in your relationship. Being married no longers feels satisfying, when you just won't want to go home anymore at the end of a working day, or you dread your husband/wife coming through the door.
Consider getting professional help from an experienced couple counsellor. At least you won't feel so on your own, if your partner doesn't want to go for counselling.
However, there is much you can do right now that can make a difference. Continue reading!
If you (and/or your boy/girlfriend or spouse) are stressed, whether or not stress in your relationship is the cause:
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Psychological health depends to a large extend on whether you are able to meet your most basic emotional needs (link to my page on the human givens) by the appropriate use of your innate resources.
Adopt a pro-active approach to your psychological well-being. This will help to lower your stress levels in all areas of your life, including your relationship. Learn more about stress from an UK National Health Services doctor.
Yo
u are unlikely to eliminate
all stresses in your marriage/relationship. However, since
relationship problems are one of the biggest causes of stress, it
makes sense to deal with them.
Instead of hoping and wishing, why not get some counselling. It will be a relief to be able to talk things through with someone completely independent. I am in a sense only next door - a phone call away.
Remember that what might comfort you, might increase someone else’s stress levels! Support your husband/wife/partner with in what he or she finds helpful, as long as they are not putting themselves or anyone else at risk.
An introvert (someone who is more at ease with
their own thoughts and feelings) is more likely to be soothed by
peace and quiet, and solitary activities.
An extrovert (someone who likes going out, getting involved and being with other people) is more likely to cope by engaging in lively activities.
You are each on a continuum between introvert and extrovert. Try to work towards a balance to avoid the risk of becoming polarised as that will certainly increase relationship stress.
Nothing lasts in life - not the good times and not the bad times. Work towards resolving the issues and keep chipping away at the stress in your relationship.
Try to remember that if your partner does not respond the way you
would like - you would be wasting your energy complaining.
Do what you can to become the person you want to be. Please LINK to it on your favourite
forum and/or website.
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Fine-tune your relationship and lift your spirits!
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