Part 1, Part 2
I hope Part 1 about the Warning Signs of a Break up has given you a good idea of what to look out for.
I suspect you may be really worried about it all - scared about what the future may hold perhaps. I know how unsettling it can be, but I can promise you this - you are much stronger than you think you are!
Let's take a look now at the stages of a break up, and the steps you can take if you're facing the end of a relationship at the moment.
Where are you in the process?
Below I have listed the stages I've seen my clients go through. Each stage has its own signs that your relationship is not what it should or could be. At the least you, your partner and your relationship will need some tender loving care!
Maybe you're now even more aware that your relationship really isn’t how you'd want it to be. I know that this is painful, however you have an opportunity right now to deal with these signs that indicate your relationship could be coming to an end.
At any one of these stages there is a real chance to make sufficient changes to save your relationship! You can make a difference all by yourself.
First of all you need to decide to stop blaming your partner. Take ownership of your role instead. You decided you wanted to be with him/her, you decided to put up with this or that, you were the one who could have done more (or less), etc. So, take control now - see How to Save Your Marriage/Relationship.
You can only change yourself - you cannot change your partner!
Be kind to yourself right now, but don't hang around feeling sorry for yourself.
I totally understand if you're feeling down at the moment. However, you can't afford to allow yourself to become really depressed. You'll only slip into being so helpless that you become incapable of grasping the opportunity to take action.
Yes, I know I'm tough on you, but I'm doing it as I so believe that you deserve to be in a loving relationship.
Each of the problem stages above is a potential opportunity for you to save your relationship or marriage - perhaps with the right kind of help. Take action now!
In the meantime, do take care of yourself. I know from personal and professional experience that life can feel very scary when you're not sure about your relationship.
This is the biggest warning sign of an impending break-up you could get. He or she is attempting to let you down gently. Your future is unclear now. There may be another person in their life.
Make no mistake, this could mean the end of your relationship. See my review of the resource you might need for The Best Chance of a Reconciliation.
Part 1, Part 2
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