Improving your relationship
- answers to all your relationship questions

Part 1, Part 2, Part 3

My site is full of answers to questions about your relationship problems. I'm a qualified and experienced couple or marriage counsellor, and I've published articles with answers to a wide variety of questions about:

  • communication
  • dealing with criticism and rejection
  • sexual problems
  • infidelity or cheating
  • the impact of stress, depression, trauma and anxiety on your relationship
  • the secrets to a happy relationship
  • deciding whether or not you've really found true love

... and many, many more.

Here we're starting with the basics of any relationship: answers to relationship questions about how to best communicate with your partner.

If by any chance you landed on the wrong page and you were looking for fun relationship questions, hop over there now.

You may *think* you've been clear!

Relationship communication

Get your communication right and you make a great start to a happy and fulfilled relationship or marriage. That doesn't mean you're not going to have any relationship issues or marital problems along the way (sorry!)... but it does mean you'll be able to handle them better.

You'll also find answers and help with specific problems on my page about common relationship problems. But do come back to this page though... this series of articles is the most important for improving your communication!

Now, about communication and reducing stress, disappointments and arguments...

Answers to questions about communication skills

Effective communication is at the heart of any relationship - personal, professional and business. There's nothing quite so attractive in a person than truly attending and listening.

Ineffective listening can spoil what you're trying to achieve in terms of building a positive, rewarding, co-operative and loving relationship.

I'm aiming to give you the answers to all your questions about your relationship. And in this article, I'll let you in on the secrets of fine-tuning your communication skills with advanced listening skills no less, so that you can avoid major arguments, reduce stress in your relationship, improve decision making and most importantly... create more empathy.

Let me start with explaining what 'advanced listening' really is...

What are active or advanced listening skills?

Couple - closely listening and attending

Active listening means using a set of specific communication skills that help you to have a really good conversation, whilst you focus completely on the other person.

You want to hear, see, feel and understand as much as possible of what the other person is trying to say.

You cannot not communicate - without uttering a sound your body ‘leaks’ information through non-verbal communication, which is as important as the spoken word.

Answers to questions about relationships draw people to my site by the thousands every day - all searching for the magic formula. But the only really magic formula is the knowledge about how to become a good listener.

Being genuinely interested in the other person. Being really listened to in itself can be very reassuring and calming. Ineffective listening on the other hand is likely to inflame any conflict.

Here is how you should start...

Two women talking and listening

Top tips on timing a difficult conversation

Here are some answers to questions you might have about when to have 'that' conversation.

If you want to 'tackle' your partner (or anyone else) about something and are planning to have a conversation, make sure that you...

  • time it right
  • deal with potential interruptions in advance
  • avoid distraction from mobile devices or monitors
  • decide that everything you're going to hear and observe is feedback and you won't argue about it
  • set a date and time for a follow-up - you don't have to do it all in one sitting

You're more likely to be able to achieve a positive outcome if you...

  • tell your partner in advance that you want to talk about something
  • let them know you'll really need all of their attention
  • ask them when would be a good time to have the conversation

By preparing the ground you'll have already communicated that this isn't just an ordinary run-of-the-mill conversation. You'll have also communicated that you respect that he or she has needs too and that you have considered those.

Resources to answer your relationship questions

Do you need immediate and more thorough answers to your relationship questions than I can provide on these pages?  

Kick start the recovery of your relationship with answers by Lee Baucom, PhD. Have a look at Save my Marriage/Relationship (actually it's written for a marriage, but it's just as suitable if you're in a long-term relationship).

Do you think it's all too late?

If your partner has left you and you want to know what you should do stand a chance of ever getting back together have a look at The Magic of Making Up.

Not at all sure that your partner is 'the one', or that it's 'true love'?

This Relationship Compatibility Test can help you get a much better insight into your feelings for your partner.

Now, let's start answering more of your questions about how relationships work.

So that you can attract the right kind of attention from your partner - carry on reading for more answers to your relationship questions...

Part 1, Part 2Part 3

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Elly Prior

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