If you're wondering about relationship counselling and whether or not it's right for you, I so hope the information on my pages will help you with this decision.
Before we take a look at what not to expect from couple counselling or marriage guidance, do make sure you have a look at Part 1 first. There you can find an explanation of the ways relationship counselling could help you.
What you will NOT get in relationship or couples counselling is:
Often one of the partners doesn't want to go for couple counselling - for whatever reason. Very often it's the male partner. If you really think that relationship or marriage counselling can help and your husband or wife won't go - then you can start by yourself. Your partner may decide to join you at a later stage.
Individual counselling can still help you to:
You can speak to a qualified counsellor now, right from my website.
Just watch this video from the University of Rochester...
Not sure at all that you want to save your relationship or marriage? This Relationship Compatibility Quiz will help you think through all the important issues so that you can make the right decision.
Do you suspect that your partner may be about to leave you? In this case, I want you to be prepared. It's all too easy to do all the wrong things, such as becoming 'clingy' with constant texting, phone calls etc. To find out what you should be doing, hop over to my page on how to stand any chance of a reconciliation.
Pre-marriage counseling is a really good idea before you tie the knot. So many problems can be sorted before you both commit yourself to the marriage, including...
... general communication problems
... issues with in-laws
... financial problems
... problems with the children (if it's not your first marriage)
... sexual problems
It may feel difficult to get the relationship you want when it seems so much is stacked up against you. You might feel it's impossible to stop the marriage preparations. The thought of telling your future wife or husband that you're worried may fill you with horror. Yet in secret, you wonder if you should go ahead with it all.
The good news is that you could perhaps consider talking to your partner about making a really positive step. You're much more likely to get a positive answer if you say you want to invest in the marriage by going for pre-marriage counselling.
If you're both committed to sorting things out, there's every chance that you can have the relationship and marriage you want. A couple/marriage counsellor can certainly help you on your way.
If you know you're struggling with your own emotional issues, then see in Part 3 how addressing these first can Really Help Your Relationship or Marriage. It includes a great video explaining the outcome of some really interesting research.
University of Rochester - Divorce Rate Cut in Half