Christmas can put extra and unnecessary strain on your relationship - so I want to see if I can help you out with some extra relationship advice. I really wouldn't want you to be one of the thousands knocking on the door of a relationship expert once the holiday season is over!
First of all, you may as well acknowledge that you could be at risk of setting yourselves up for 'failure' - if you want to call it that. Why? Well ... the holiday season is often so stressful because of the huge expectations:
Whatever that all of that means! How stressful is that?
Before you even start - you may familiarise yourself with a fab hypnosis solution to the stress
around Christmas time.
All these expectations can lead disappointments, for you and for others.
I am going to mention the potential trouble spots, some of which you are no doubt well aware, others perhaps not so much.
I hope that if I can prepare you in advance - you may be able to
manage at least your own, your partner's and your children's
expectations way in advance of Christmas. Hopefully this
will also help you to become more aware of the pressures others
around you feel. It all creates the potential for a
Here are some of the 'pressure points' on relationships at Christmas:
So, how about insulating your relationship as well as your home?
There is still enough time
to review your Christmas arrangements. Take the time to
decide what you are definitely going to be doing differently this
year. Remember, if you always do the same, don't expect then
a different result!
Here is the plan for you and your partner or spouse well before Christmas. If you have children arrange for them to stay in their rooms for an evening - with a tray of 'goodies' if need be - or have them stay away with friends/family if at all possible (you could agree to swap).
Over the Christmas period...
Under no circumstances discuss any of the above when either one of you is under the influence of alcohol!
Here are some tips from the Greater Good's Christine Carter, PhD:
I so hope that you and your partner are indeed going to enjoy a great, loving Christmas.
Here are my top tips for keeping things in perspective.
Be conscious of how much you drink. If you are at all
concerned, try the hypnosis download: Party
and have fun without alcohol.
Rather than let all that energy you've put into Christmas dissipate - use what you have experienced/learned to make next year's Christmas easier and quicker to 'organise' and 'run'.
After Christmas, arrange for a time to give everyone an opportunity to comment openly and honestly on how Christmas was from their point of view. You may or may not like what you are going to hear, but make no judgments, don't punish and keep it positive.
Just summarise without any undertone, in your own words, what you
have heard from your partner or spouse and your children - the
good, the bad and the ugly. Write it down 'as is' and
discuss how you would all like it to be next year.
I do hope that some of my relationship tips and advice will help you to have an even more enjoyable and peaceful Christmas.
If your relationship/marriage is in trouble - don't delay doing
something about it. I recommend Save your marriage (relationship).
Fine-tune your relationship and lift your spirits!
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