The signs and symptoms of a nervous breakdown you should not ignore

Part 1, Part 2, Part 3

The signs and symptoms of your 'nervous breakdown' are an indication that you have reached your limit, not that you're going mad! You're just at breaking point - completely 'stressed out' and at the 'end of your tether'.

There's a limit to us all and there's a limit to how much you can cope with too. Maybe life has just thrown too much at you, and/or your resources - internal and/or external - have become depleted. You can no longer deal with all that stress and you feel you're falling apart.

I hope to help you make sense of what is happening to you or someone you care about - your partner perhaps.

I'm including this article in my relationship advice site, because all too often relationship problems are part and parcel of a breakdown.

I'm aiming above all to reassure you. By the end of the three parts of this article you will know:

a) how all that stress led to your no longer feeling able to cope
b) what a 'nervous breakdown' exactly is
c) Where You Can talk to an Online Professional Right Now
d) What to Do to Get Over it
e) when to see a doctor immediately (see Part 3)

You may feel you're 'going crazy' right now, but you will recover. The symptoms of a burnout will disappear and you'll no longer carry the signs that you can't cope anymore.  It just won't happen overnight.

Symptoms of a nervous breakdown

Maybe you've heard about someone "having a nervous breakdown" and you've asked yourself: what is it?  So, let me explain...

First of all - any of the terms I have used so far to describe what you're going through would not normally be used by a professional.

I have used them here, because I know that thousands of people a month are searching for it. I just want to be sure that I reach everyone who is worried about themselves or someone they love. You too may suspect that you or someone else is suffering from 'shattered nerves' (yet another description) and don't know what to think or do.

This kind of disorder (don't let that word worry you either) can all start with the following symptoms over time or they can catch you out completely unexpectedly (though they would have been 'lurking' for some time and I think you know that!):

7 Common physical nervous breakdown symptoms

Overactive thyroid?

Two of my friends were recently diagnosed with an over-active thyroid. They thought they were going mad.

So, if in addition to the symptoms mentioned on this page you are also experiencing unexplained or unexpected weight-loss, you're needing to go to the toilet all too frequently and you're sensitive to heat, do yourself a favour - get yourself checked out by a doctor.

  1. irregular heart beat - you can feel your heart pounding. You may think you're gravely ill, yet tests are unlikely to be convincing.
  2. tensed/painful muscles
  3. clammy hands, sweating
  4. dizziness or light-headedness
  5. trembling or shaking - you may feel these are the most embarrassing symptoms of a nervous breakdown as you worry people may notice
  6. upset stomach and bowel problems - your body/mind reacts as if your life is in danger and digestion is secondary to survival
  7. exhaustion - all your energy is being used trying to manage/cope with this crisis
Take time to connect with nature when you're down and anxious

8 Mental symptoms that make you think you're going mad

  1. panic, fears and phobias
  2. inability to cope with stuff you wouldn't have thought about twice before
  3. sexual problems - loss of libido - sex drive - Female/Male, impotence
  4. sleep problems - not being able to fall asleep, frequently waking up and not being able to go back to sleep with racing thoughts
  5. withdrawal from loved ones - my clients describe it sometimes as 'living in a bubble'
  6. irritability and angry outbursts - you have no spare capacity
  7. difficulty concentrating - you probably can't even read a page in a book, or even keep your mind on the headlines in a newspaper
  8. depression - this is almost a 'given', when your life seems to be 'unraveling' (See my pages on depression - links further down.)

No wonder you feel you're falling apart!

In Part 2 and 3 of this article is stuff you must also know including when it becomes essential to have a medical check-up.

If you're keen to find out right now how to get over a nervous breakdown, click right here.

What about your emotional state?

5 Typical emotional problems with a mental meltdown

  1. crying easily, and seemingly endlessly, at the drop of a hat - whether you're male or female!  No need to be embarrassed.
  2. feeling guilty for all kinds of reasons: 'not pulling your weight', not being there for someone else, not being your 'normal' self, etc
  3. feeling alone - you're embarrassed and don't want to bother with anyone. You don't even recognise yourself.
  4. feeling joyless - increasingly withdrawing from all the things you would normally enjoy - no wonder with all those symptoms!
  5. being/feeling 'paranoid' - feeling that people are out to get you and single you out for every scrap of negativity.

It is not surprising that often a nervous or mental breakdown goes hand-in-hand with depression. 

Therefore I'm going to be straight with you: you're not going to get better by staying in bed, miserable and worried! I know what can help though, but let's talk first in Part 2 about what people might notice: The Signs of a Mental Breakdown.

Oh and if you have suffered a trauma from which you have difficulties recovering, have a look at my page on PTSD symptoms. PTSD can have a huge impact on relationships!

Part 1, Part 2, Part 3

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