You may be suspicious about your partner's behaviour because you can - or suspect you can - see the signs of infidelity. If so, it's totally understandable if you're feeling scared and/or angry.
Your partner might deny all, whilst you know that something isn't right - there are infidelity warning signs you can't stop thinking about. You may have tried to deny it to yourself for a while. However, it's very likely that you're becoming increasingly distressed and worried about the meaning of all the signs.
Stick with me, because you're very likely to need someone to tell you that you're not going mad. Oh... and I've got a great video further down on how to spot a liar.
Be sure to also visit my pages on Surviving Infidelity and Interpreting Body Language (see links below), where you'll find a really interesting video clip with Dr Helen Fisher. She explains the systems in the brain which are involved with love, lust and attachment.
However, you're probably here because your relationship or marriage isn't working, so just before we continue, please do check out How to Save Your Marriage/Relationship.
Nothing I can say or write will give you a definite answer and I really want you to be careful not to jump to conclusions about the signs of infidelity.
However, a combination of the following signs that your partner is cheating are what you should be looking for. These things might indicate that your partner could possibly be having an affair...
I know it's difficult to be confronted with the infidelity warning signs that might indicate you have a cheating spouse. You may have your worst fears confirmed. Because of this, I'd really love you to explore all my other pages on this website too. I've got loads of help and advice that can help you deal with it all.
Also, in case you're suffering from depression, then I'd really love to help you to do something about that now. I so don't want you to simply wait for the situation to deteriorate - it'll only get worse if you do find out that your partner is cheating.
You deserve better, so make sure that you avoid another layer of suffering. I recommend the depression treatment downloads from HypnosisDownloads. They have a team of experts and have developed some excellent methods for Dealing With Depression.
Research shows that as human beings we are all too keen to tell a lie. You may even be aware that your partner is particularly prone to lying. However, you need to see these infidelity warning signs in the context of all the other signs of infidelity...
A very important note of caution: Please be careful how you interpret body language signs though. They're so easily misread, and it's really important to look at how she or he is different from what you would normally observe.
Here are the moments when you need to be particularly observant when you're asking a question relating to your partner's whereabouts or acitivites...
There are further warning signs of infidelity which can suggest that all is not what it seems. How keen is your partner to show their 'true' self?
Signs of infidelity can be found in exactly what language your partner is using, how she or he might steer a conversation, and/or how they might avoid talking about stuff.
Your partner might...
.... make it sound like you have a problem and it's all your fault
... tell you (and themselves?) that they are 'just good friends'
... make generally derogatory remarks to you - they need to have a 'reason' for an affair and justify it, by your behaviour
... say things that somehow don’t seem 'stack up', without you necessarily being able to put your finger on it
Your friends may already suspect or know about the affair - they might have seen the signs before you. If so, they're likely to be facing a few dilemmas of their own:
But remember - real friends will do whatever they think is right for you, even if you think differently.
Don’t shoot the messenger if they tell you! Sadly, the 'other woman/man' could be amongst your friends.
I've worked with hundreds of individuals and couples where one partner was suspicious on account of infidelity warning signs. Having the right kind of support and advice, from someone completely independent, can make the difference between yet another sleepless night, or a plan of action that helps you to feel more in control.
If you're wondering whether or not to stay in your relationship and really don't know what to do, this End Relationship Test can help you to make the right decision.
I'd also like you to be prepared in case your partner suddenly says he or she wants to end your relationship or marriage, so do have a look at How to Get Your Ex Back.
Pamela Meyer, author of 'Lie Spotting', is a world renowned expert on lying. Learn some surprising facts from what she has to say by watching this video...