Infidelity warning signs
The signs of a cheating spouse or partner

Part 1, Part 2

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You may be suspicious about your partner's behaviour because you can - or suspect you can - see the signs of infidelity.  If so, it's totally understandable if you're feeling scared and/or angry.

Your partner might deny all, whilst you know that something isn't right - there are signs you can't stop thinking about. You may have tried to deny it to yourself for a while. However, it's very likely that you're becoming increasingly distressed and worried about the meaning of all the strange behaviours or conversations.

Stick with me, because you're very likely to need someone to tell you that you're not going mad.  Oh... and I've got a great video further on in this article how to spot a liar.

Be sure to also visit my pages on Surviving Infidelity and Interpreting Body Language (see links at the end of the article), where you'll find a really interesting video clip with Dr Helen Fisher. She explains the systems in the brain which are involved with love, lust and attachment.

However, you're probably here because your relationship or marriage isn't working, so just before we continue, please do check out How to Save Your Marriage/Relationship. I'll still be here when you come back.

What are the infidelity warning signs?

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Nothing I can say or write will give you a definite answer and I really want you to be careful not to jump to conclusions about the signs of infidelity.  

However, a combination of the following signs that your partner is cheating are what you should be looking for. These things might indicate that your partner could possibly be having an affair...

10 Signs your partner could be cheating on you

  1. Body language (see below the link to non-verbal communication)
  2. What is said
  3. How it is said
  4. what is not talked about
  5. Actions that don’t fit his or her values and beliefs
  6. Behaviour that is 'out of the ordinary'
  7. Secrecy around the use of mobile phones
  8. New apps and programmes on computers and/or new passwords on existing ones 
  9. Unusual questions about your whereabouts (of course he or she could be planning a surprise for you, but it could also be a sign of infidelity)
  10. Unfortunately, I'm really sorry to have to point this out, but the evidence may be found by checking out your sexual health, if all was well before

Here's my latest page on the Signs of a Cheating Wife or Husband.

I know it's difficult to be confronted with the signs that might indicate you have a cheating spouse. You may have your worst fears confirmed. Because of this, I'd really love you to explore all my other pages on this website too - I've got loads of help and advice that can help you deal with it all.

Also, in case you're suffering from depression, then I'd really love to help you to do something about that now. I so don't want you to simply wait for the situation to deteriorate - it'll only get worse if you do find out that your partner is cheating.  

You deserve better, so make sure that you avoid another layer of suffering. I recommend the depression treatment downloads from HypnosisDownloads. They are a team of experts and have developed some excellent methods to help you deal with your pain and distress.

A cheating partner's body language...

Research shows that as human beings we are all too keen to tell a lie*. You may even be aware that your partner is particularly prone to lying. However, please remember to make sure you only see these warning signs in the context of all the other signs of infidelity...

6 More signs that may add to your suspicion

  1. Your partner may be looking down as he or she is talking to you - a possible sign of guilt
  2. His or her eyes may be shifting all over the place, trying to avoid your gaze
  3. He or she may stare at you, holding your gaze (as they know the meaning behind avoiding your gaze)
  4. He or she may tend to blink more when staring
  5. He or she maybe hiding their hands (a hang-over from childhood: "I didn't do that, honest") Do watch the videos at www.bodylanguageguide.co.uk
  6. They may blush when you talk about the subject (be careful... they maybe embarrassed, but not actually guilty)

Behaviour patterns

Hop over to Part 2 for a look at the telling behavioural patterns that might point to infidelity.

Oh... and if at any time you want to discuss this with an online expert counsellor or therapist, you can do that right from one of my pages. Just click here for Online Relationship Advice.

Part 1, Part 2

References

*University Of Massachusetts At Amherst. UMass Researcher Finds Most People Lie In Everyday Conversation. ScienceDaily, 12 Jun. 2002, via ScienceDaily

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