If you are in need of a female libido booster, the good news is that problems with libido are often only temporary. If you want to know how to increase female libido - I have listed what may affect your libido, with ideas on what to do about it.
Knowing what has caused your lack of libido will help you to find a solution. I have included some excellent resources to help you on your way.
It is really important that you see a doctor first. There are a number of health conditions, such as anaemia and thyroid problems, that could stand in the way of your enjoying healthy physical relationship.
So, pop over first to my page on how to deal with sexual relationship problems - I will be here when you come back.
We can now look at some other problems that may be underlying your low libido.
Your recovery from any of these problems can be hugely improved with the help of a professional. Can I gently suggest that you consider seeing either a specialist therapist (BASRT - see helpful links) or a relationship counsellor? If that does not appeal to you - I have linked to some great resources on this page to help you do something about it right now.
I know you would rather take a 'magic bullet', but trust me - you are going to be OK without it. All you need to do is to make a start. Whatever you do, don't stick your head in the sand!
If you have seen a doctor and there are medical reasons why you are having problems with desire, than your doctor can help with medication.
When you are looking at how to improve libido, all of the points below play a part, but not all will apply to you. You may consider that some of those aspects of your well-being are obviously 'not you'. However, others - such as stress, trauma and relationship problems - may trigger a reaction in you as you read them. That could give you an indication that it may play a part in your lack of libido.
I'm not one for suggesting you try a 'quick fix'. However,
I do appreciate that you may not necessarily be ready to tackle
other 'stuff' and would rather than a natural remedy first, just
Since I trust the company NativeRemedies, the only remedy I would want to recommend you try (if any at all) is: Thanda Passion Booster for Improved Female Libido and Pleasure.
At HypnosisDownloads they know how to sort your unconscious mind! They have an excellent female libido booster: Increase female libido. It will help you to safely and fairly effortlessly increase your sex drive. Until you have tried it, you can only be curious about its effect - you have three months to give it a go (money back guarantee).
So, if you have little time or patience to read further now and just want to get it sorted - hypnosis is the way to go. Not sure about hypnosis? Let me explain.
It is no wonder that you can't be doing with sex when you are stressed! We evolved millions of years ago at a time when stress meant having to make a decision about having lunch or being in danger of becoming lunch! It does not take much to imagine that it would be impossible to sex when there is a risk of being attacked by say a tiger.
However, whilst you are unlikely to be at risk of being attacked by an animal, you may well be living with high levels of stress. Your libido will increase, when you learn to relax. I promise you that a whole host of other complaints will reduce or even magically disappear if you can manage your stress levels better.
Do you have just too much to do? Well, if your physical relationship is suffering and you are in need of a female libido booster - I have no doubt that other aspects of your life are suffering too. I am far more concerned about your sorting out your general tiredness, than your low libido. Female low libido is often linked with adrenal fatigue syndrome. Check out my page Adrenal fatigue symptoms (see links below) to see if they fit yours.
The energy boosting hypnosis is a really good start. You may also find it helpful to visit my Problem solving strategies (links further down) page to help you sort this.
The question really is: do you want to resolve it, or do you know deep down that your tiredness helps you to avoid having sex for whatever reason? In other words you may feel that you would rather not know how to increase female libido.
The book on the left can be a real help though. There is a link at the bottom of the page to the research paper that supports it.
Have you been abused as a child or an adult?
You really don't have to be walking around with that trauma in your head. Neither do you need to be 'managing' it by avoiding things that remind you of it - like engaging in a healthy physical relationship!
A counsellor can help you put it in the past. Visit my page on How to find a counsellor for starters, because you will want to know that you contact the right one.
A more challenging one to solve, needing a bit more time - as I am sure you are aware. However, it can absolutely be sorted. You can make a really good start by reading generally about how to have a healthy sexual relationship. It will help just to get comfortable with the language. You may also find the Shy naked hypnosis download helpful. Just overcoming your shyness may improve your libido with no further need for female libido boosters.
If you have a low self-esteem, perhaps a poor body-image, then
download for raising your self-esteem is a must!
Just explore this website - I have published many articles on how to deal with relationship problems. Now is the time to do something about it, before it is too late. Consider counselling to help you out of that 'stuckness' or you might like to try this relationship download bundle.
Feeling neglected? Lacking attention?
Have a look at Text The Romance Back - a fab
system for learning how to send
If you are unhappy in your relationship it is very unlikely that you are going to really enjoy having sex. Figuring out how to improve female libido is wasting your energy. I wonder how you would feel about suggesting relationship counselling or marriage guidance to your partner. If he/she is not keen, you have no idea on how to improve matters or neither of you really want couples counselling, then you might like: Save the Marriage/Relationship.
If by any chance you are in an abusive relationship, then this hypnosis download: the courage to leave an abusive relationship can help you to pluck up the courage to make an important change. Not sure if you could call your relationship abusive? You can find out in this test.
If you are not sure that you are in the right relationship this compatibility quiz can help you find out if your relationship/marriage has a chance.
Our brain has not changed for tens of thousands of years. You were very unlikely to have felt relaxed enough to have sex and enjoy yourself when you know there is a sabre tooth tiger lurking in the bushes.
Today we have no sabre tooth tigers, but there are many other reasons that can cause anxiety. If you suffer from anxiety, it may be stopping you from being able to have an enjoyable, healthy physical relationship. Although doing it may help bring anxiety levels down due to the influence of the calming/bonding hormone oxytocin.
It would be far more helpful for you to do all you can to bring down your anxiety levels, rather than look for female libido boosters. I would give the same advice if you are suffering specific fears around having a physical relationship. You may not need to learn how to increase female libido - your libido will improve when you feel more relaxed. There is a great hypnosis download to help you relax and reach orgasm.
If you are suffering from general anxiety, excessive worry, panic attacks, fears and/or phobias, then I recommend Chris Bayliss' program: Panic Miracle. Chris himself suffered dreadfully from the most terrible anxiety for many years. He did not find any cure by visiting a whole range of doctors, psychiatrists, hypnotherapists, acupuncturists, etc. He did masses of research and over time cured himself. He has since cured countless people of their panic attacks and has now developed a programme: Panic Miracle, which has helped many thousands of people get rid of their anxiety for good.
If you can hardly be bothered to motivate yourself to get up in the morning, it is not surprising that you just can't be bothered with sex. Time to contact a good counsellor! Depression is mostly caused by essential emotional needs not being met in balance. Before you consider how to increase female libido, I would really like you to feel better in yourself.
Just a note of warning: antidepressants often cause low libido and general lack of romantic feelings - a rather depressing side effect!
Hop straight over to my page: Hypnosis FAQ to learn how you can free yourself from depression with their fabulous complete depression download bundle. You can be cured of that depression, without antidepressant medication (which incidentally increases your risk of suffering further episodes of depression!).
If you keep doing the same, you will continue to get the same result!
So ... do something different today. There
are plenty resources here for you to make a start
How comfortable are you with your own body? If not at all, you can make a gentle start by very slowly exploring your own body, step by tiny step. Use a mirror, even if it is a really tiny one to start with.
Whatever the cause of your discomfort, this is a really important first step. Take your time and learn how different parts of your body respond to your touch. I know it is not going to happen overnight, but I also know that you can do it. Be kind, rather than judge yourself. Take it step by tiny step and everything that happens is feedback. There is no point in learning how to increase female libido and/or just take a female libido booster.
Definitely one for a specialist therapist or try the hypnosis download that treats vaginismus. He/she has a special way of sorting that out for you - by way of talking therapy and things you can do at home. Don't' worry - all will be done at your pace - ever so gently.
Sore due to a yeast infection?
I have found something I feel able to recommend from a great company - Native Remedies. Vagi-Soothe - a Homeopathic remedy temporarily relieves vaginal itching, burning and discomfort.
Giving birth and breastfeeding shift the whole spectrum of hormones. You may also be sore from the birth, particularly after an episiotomy or caesarean. Breastfeeding and looking after a new baby takes an enormous amount of energy. No wonder you may often feel exhausted.
A change in hormone levels, and a consequent lack of desire, is nature's way of ensuring that you are not likely to fall pregnant too soon.
Wait and see how you recover, how the scars heal - no immediate
cure, just a little patience!
However, this may be an ideal time to invest in your physical relationship in other ways (see above).
If you have had a hysterectomy and your ovaries were removed at the same time, a sudden drop in testosterone can cause a lowering of your libido.
A good surgeon or family doctor would have discussed hormone replacement therapy with you. It is not too late to start HRT, if that is what you want. However, be sure that you are really well-informed before you make that decision.
Again - you might want to consider HRT, but inform yourself first of all the advantages and disadvantages. Consider alternative treatments instead.
A poor nutritional state can lead to sexual dysfunction and in particular a low libido too. Vit B12 is the energy vitamin and a low Vit D3 is known to be linked with a lack of sex drive, to just give you a snapshot.
It won't help though to just start popping vitamin pills when you have no interest in sex. Many of the vitamin supplements available are synthetic - they are unlikely to be absorbed by your body and if they are absorbed they are often not utilised.
First and foremost you will need to want to take responsibility for looking after yourself, nurturing yourself with a healthy diet and exercise. Only when you take control of that aspect of your life, will your energy and self-esteem improve and with that - your interest in sex.
Safe and sufficient exposure to sunlight will improve your uptake of Vit D with huge health benefits. So, get yourself outside - start walking!
Well ... I suspect you would find it much easier to pop some pills, eat some libido boosters and be done by it. However, how many oysters can you really eat?
Certainly there are indeed foods that suppose to increase desire. However, a focus on one area of human functioning invariably causes problems in others. Ultimately, with a healthy body and mind you should have a healthy desire, so - deal with the underlying problem. The question of how to increase female libido, really is a question about general health and lifestyle - however boring that sounds!
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