It doesn't matter right now if the object of your affection is an ex-partner or spouse, a lover or someone you couldn't have - no judging here. You just want to know how to get over him or her, because oh the pain, the pain!
Not being able to be with him or her can be 'hell' and concentrating on anything else or just enjoying yourself is so hard.
You may be working with him or her, seeing or meeting them every day, they may be part of your friendship group or the father or mother of your children. Whatever it is - you wish you could get them out of your mind, even if you're desperately wishing they could be part of your life! It's like they're permanently camping inside your head.
If you were actually in a relationship with that person, you may or may not have had an inkling that it's was going to end. If it was a shock I'm quite sure you feel stunned and massively rejected. You could stay in bed and weep all day!
Keep reading, I am going to really try and help you out here. If your pain isn't about unrequited love or a crush, then click here for advice on how to get over someone you love - your ex.
Maybe you never actually had a relationship with that person, but you so wish you had. Maybe there's a good reason you can never have a relationship with that someone - that person has rejected you, too old, too young, married or spoken for.
However painful and difficult, it's such a normal feeling! You are not 'off your rocker' at all. Watch the video further down for an explanation and stick with me - I am going to be right here for you!
Don't want to hang around? Need fast relief? Download the 'How to get over a relationship' hypnosis MP3 or 'Unrequited love'. Don't like the sound of hypnosis? Have a look at my page FAQ about self-hypnosis.
Realising that you have recognisable symptoms can help. You'll realise that you're not alone in your desperate search for effective ways to get over someone. So, have a look at my list of signs and symptoms of either unrequited love or a massive crush (or indeed the start of a beautiful relationship!)
I could go on of course - so many of clients tell me all of those things and more, when they have come to me wanting to know how to get over someone. And in fact, I know them only too well myself! How many mirror your experience?
It may be too late, but if there is still a glimmer of hope have a look at my page on how to win your ex back. At the same time also take a peep at Text The Romance Back - a fab system for learning how to send fabulously enticing romantic text messages to get your ex to notice you again.
Just stopping to think about that person is not going to help you get over him or her. Here is a list with tried and tested ways to help you get over someone you love.
First of all - being emotional costs loads of energy, so you need to ensure that your body and mind are nurtured to help you feel strong in the face of temptation.
To the nitty gritty then. Just for starters here are some probing questions to start your quest for knowledge and advice on how to get over someone. The following will help you to get a different perspective and let go:
If you really want to know how to get over someone, then the best relationship advice I can give you is to reconnect with people around you - friends, family, colleagues, etc.
Meeting our essential emotional need for a sense of community is one of the best ways to recover from anything!
Prof Helen Fisher's research confirmed what I had always suspected from my work with couples and individuals. There had to be some explanation why a seemingly contented and happy partner or spouse would suddenly become besotted by someone else!
Often I did uncover some historic relationship stuff. However, that didn't account for what appeared to be a total personality change.
Biological anthropologist Helen Fisher knows all about it! She has discovered that there are three circuits in the brain that affect how we experience love and affection. One circuit is linked with attachment, one with romantic love and one with lust.
Want to learn more about how to get over someone? Just watch this video.
If you are short of time watch at least the
first 10 minutes. Understanding how your brain works and how you may have got hooked will help you select the right
strategies to get over him or her.
When you really want to know how to get over someone hypnosis downloads are the most powerful tools - it goes right to the heart of the matter. And no ... it won't get you to act like a clown!
HypnosisDownloads.com has specific downloads for your situation, such as How to get over someone or over a relationship.
If you have someone 'camping in your head', who doesn't have the same feelings for you - don't despair. I have selected a very effective download that'll help you get a life again: 'Unrequited Love' as quickly as possible. Start with my page on How to do self-hypnosis to familiarise yourself a bit.