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Get over someone you really like or love

It matters not right now if that 'someone' was a partner, a lover or husband/wife - no judging here - you want to know how to get over someone you like or love. It is 'hell' if you can't think of anything else, but him or her and you know you can't have him/her.

You may be working with him/her, seeing or meeting every day, that person may be part of your friendship group. Whatever it is - you wish you could 'cut it out'! If you think that there is still a chance that you can get him/her back - then visit my page: How to get your ex back. If not ... keep reading, I am going to really try and help you out.

How
to get over someone Perhaps you had an idea that relationship was coming to an end. Howerver - you may have had no inkling at all and the ending came as a complete shock. You feel rejected and maybe even traumatised if an ending came 'out of the blue'.

Maybe you never actually had a relationship with that person. There is a reason you can never have a relationship with that someone you just cannot stop thinking about - unrequited love, too old, too young, married, spoken for ... If only you were able to get that person out of your head ...

However painful and difficult, it is 'normal' - you are not 'off your rocker' after all. Watch the video further down for an explanation and hold on - I am going to be right here for you!

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What are your symptoms?

Realising that you have recognisable symptoms can help you to understand that you are not on your own in wanting to know how to get over someone.

Do you go to bed imagining that person right beside you?
Do you imagine making love to that person, perhaps even whilst making love to someone else?
Do you dream about that person?
Do you wake up thinking about him/her?
Do you think of any which way you can to be in touch?
Can you think of all the excuses you have ever had to contact that person for 'legitimate' reasons?
Do you find yourself making a detour in the hope you bump into him/her?
Do you go over every single word they have spoken or written to identify the 'hidden' meaning?
Are you constantly checking your emails, mobile, Facebook - whatever?

I am sure you know that I could go on - I have heard so many clients tell me all of those things and more, when they have come to me wanting to know how to ge tover someone. How many answers here confirm how badly affected you really are?

Where to start

Just stopping to think about that person is not going to help you get over someone. However, here are some other ideas that will help you turn a corner, when you want to know how to get over someone you really like.

First of all though - if you have been in a relationship and you have only just broken up - are you sure you can't still get your ex back? You may want to try - I have written a page on how to get your ex back - do visit it, because all may not be lost!

Being emotional costs loads of energy - so you are going to need to look for ways to ensure that your body/mind are nurtured, to counter-balance that heavy expenditure and build your inner strength.

Ensure you sleep well - visit my page on natural sleep remedies
Limit your drinking with self-hypnosis - too much alcohol makes a huge demand on Vit B, which is vital in dealing with the stress
Take plenty exercise: aerobic exercise is great, particularly outdoors. Fast walking for half an hour a day, or at least five times a week, if you are not used to exercising, will do the trick.
Calm your mind easily and effectively with a hypnosis download. You won't believe how relaxed you can be and you will be in a far better able to think clearly - stop the thoughts going round and round
Calm your mind with soothing music (with about 80 beats per minute), Tai Chi, Yoga or meditation

Stay Or Walk Away?

Write 'never to be sent letters' to get things of your chest
Give yourself permission to really indulge in thinking about that other person - but ... for only a limited time a day. Try twice for 20 minutes or so. Get on with the rest of your life and just acknowledge any thoughts during other times, knowing that you can revisit them during the allotted time.
If an important relationship has come to an end - accept that you are grieving for the loss.
Learn to relax and meditate - see below:

How to get over someone

To the nitty gritty then - here are some probing questions - just for starters in your quest for knowledge on how to get over someone. Considering these points will help build your motivation to let go:

If you were not spending your time obsessing about this person, how would you spend your time?
Do you have anything interesting going on in your life? Have you thought about capitalising on a subject you know well/feel passionate about by building a website - even if you are a complete 'technophobe'? That would certainly divert your energies and attention well away from the problem. To discover more click here for an amazing programme that will help you turn a hobby/knowledge to turn it into an on-line business.
How are you going to spend the next 20 years of your life?
What exactly have you thought you would want to be doing without that person in your life?
What would you want to be telling your children/grandchildren in 20 years time?
If you could reclaim all that energy that you have investing in obsessing about this person, what could you achieve?

Make a new start

Consider getting some counselling. There is nothing quite like being able to get it all of your chest and get some strategies to deal with it all. A good counsellor should also know how to 'detraumatise' you.
If you are in a relationship/marriage which you really value - consider going for couple counselling to help you re-invest in that relationship
If you can't imagine investing in it, consider whether you need to end it. Visit my page on How to end a relationship (link further down) to learn how to do it with dignity and consideration for your and your partner's sake
If you are not now in a relationship, it would really help to take a project on, such as voluntary work, studies, special project at work, DIY, gardening, etc. Do some brainstorming for ideas.
Reinvest in your friendships. Make a point of contacting people you haven't seen for a long time.
Pay special attention to being an aunt, brother, granddaughter, son or whatever role connects you with family

If you really want to know how to get over someone, then the best relationship advice I can give you is to reconnect with people around you - friends, family, colleagues, etc. A sense of community is such a strong emotional need in all of us.

Why is getting over someone you really like so difficult?

Biological anthropologist Helen Fisher knows all about it! She has discovered that there are three circuits in the brain that affect how we experience love and affection. One circuit is linked with attachment, one with romantic love and one with lust.

Want to learn more about how to get over someone? Just watch this video. If you are short of time, just watching about 10 minutes will begin to give you a clue. Understanding how your brain works and how you may have got caught up (if this is the case for you) will help you select the right strategies for you.

Why you can't get him/her out of your head

When I came across Helen Fisher's work I realised that her research confirmed what I had always suspected from my work with couples, as well as individuals. My clients include a large number or people who come to me wanting to know how to get over someone.

There had to be a reason why seemingly happy (or 'happy enough') couples would get into trouble, because a husband/wife/partner had suddenly become completely besotted with someone else. I could usually uncover some previously 'hidden' difficulties, but often that did not account for what appeared a total personality change. Read the book!

How to get over someone

Get over a relationship from HypnosisDownloads.com will really help you to relax deeply. You will have the opportunity to experience a clarity of mind you may not have felt for a while and better still ... you'll find yourself increasingly focusing on other things, rather than your ex.

Hypnosis goes right to the heart of the matter. When you really want to know how to get over someone, then hypnosis - it is the most powerful tool. And no ... it won't get you to act like a clown!

If you have someone 'camping in your head', who does not have the same feelings for you - don't despair - I have selected a very effective download to help you realise that there is 'life' out there - away from this person. Are you suffering from unrequited love? I would highly recommend 'Unrequited Love' to help you get over him/her as quickly as possible.

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