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18 Tips on how to 'get lucky'

good luck How often have you heard it said? "You make your own luck'." Is that so? If it is, how do you do that? What is the secret? Since 'luck' is a nominalisation (a word that does not mean anything, but the meaning you give it), what is 'luck' really (Merriam Webster Dictionary)?

Further down I have listed my top tips on how to attract some luck into your life, but at least you now know this is not an article about how to lure someone into bed with you! On this page are stories to help people get out of bed, stories like this amazingly inspiring one about Kimeli Naiyomah, a member of the Masai Maara tribe.

Why this unusual page for a site like this?

I stumbled across a file named 'luck' on my computer, whilst searching for something else. I was puzzled, could not remember what it was about; on reading the article I did not recognise it and was cross with myself for not referencing it, as now I could not use it as it was. I even ran it through a copy checker!

Slowly it began to dawn on me that I had written it. After some time I remembered writing it for my son a year before, after he mentioned what a "jammy so-and-so" I always was (by the way: believe me ... I have been 'through the wringer' in my time too!)

Children, and in particular adult children often - quite rightly - insist on learning their own lessons, rejecting any 'advice'. Yet I so wanted to say this to him.

I trust he will somehow stumble across this article one day and, hopefully, understand that in many ways it is more about how to be lucky. If you are too focused on other people's luck, you may just walk past your own without ever realising it, whilst you are spending your energy on feeling envious or even jealous.

Perhaps, if you have searched for how to become lucky, you may be feeling down in the dumps or even depressed. If so, you may find the following page helpful: Signs of depression (see links).

Luck and your relationship

Since this is a relationship advice site and I want to be sure that I address all your relationship questions - you may just think how 'luck' affects your relationship.

Are you or your partner envious or even jealous of the other's good fortune?
Does it create resentment?
Is your partner, suddenly becoming 'needy', when something goes particularly well for you? Or vice versa?
Does your 'luck' cause your partner to feel insecure? Or do you feel threatened by your partner's good fortune?

How to be lucky

I just want to be sure that I have information too for people who are looking for lucky symbols and numbers. If you are visiting the page because you are looking for that a special number or symbol that can bring you some luck - I have a list for you too. Superstitious or not: expectation and belief are very powerful concepts. So, go for it - choose whatever you think can make you lucky.

However, do read right through to the bottom of the page for my 18 powerful approaches to attracting luck into your life. Whatever you decide to do - ditch any negativity - from your thoughts and vocabulary. I don't mean slavishly pretending that you are feeling positive - that simply won't work. I mean that you should filter your thoughts and acts - consider what actually adds value to your life (and that of others) and what undermines your chances of becoming even luckier than you probably already are.

Lucky symbols

Lucky symbol - dreamcatcher Disappointed that I haven't given you some 'magic' stuff? Well, Wikipedia has a fascinating list of magic symbols - with their origin (see links). They mostly fit in five categories: religious symbols, flora, fauna, numbers, other and of course - numbers.

Religious symbols: representations of Buddha

Flora: bamboo, four-leaf clover, acorn

Fauna: cricket, dragon fly, ladybird, bat, albatross, horseshoe, rabbit's foot, fish and fish scale, tiger, black cat, scarab beetle, tortoise.

Other: dream catcher, leprechaun, star, rainbow

Lucky numbers

Even or uneven numbers - there are numerous reasons as to why a number is considered lucky. Wikipedia mentions them, but here is an excellent article on Chinatravel.com: Lucky Chinese numbers (see links)

Luck, success and happiness

The first question to ask really is: why would you want to be 'lucky'? Would luck make you more more successful? Would it prevent heartache, or hard work? Would good luck even make you happier?

You only need to read the headlines to realise that 'success' does not make you happier necessarily, though it may contribute. Words like 'success' and 'happiness' are nominalisations. They are letters in a line that form symbols for something that only you can define. Words like these have a different meaning for each one of us.

Do you deserve a bit of luck?

Maybe you feel you 'deserve' a bit of luck. I wonder then what rules and parameters you use to come to that conclusion. When, where and how does anyone become 'entitled' to a bit of luck?

At the time of completing this article I was listening to the audio version of Viktor Frankle's book 'Man's Search for Meaning', which had long been on my wish list.

If anyone deserved a bit of luck it was Viktor Frankl, a psychiatrist, neurologist and brain surgeon in Austria, before the second world war. In this book he hauntingly describes how he and his fellow inmates in the concentration camp felt in luck when they had a foreman that day who was less brutal. They even at times felt lucky to have survived another day.

Yet surviving meant 12 hours of hard physical labour in snow and ice, without shoes, gloves or coats, with feet and hands swollen and painful from frost bite and oedema. They 'survived' on a tiny piece of bread and a little watery soup with - if they were lucky - a few peas. They slept on their sides wedged between 8 other men in one 'bed' - wooden planks - no mattress, sharing two thin blankets in below zero temperatures. Surviving another day, also meant having to face another day of beatings if they stumbled or slowed down because they were emaciated, ill, in pain and exhausted.

How 'lucky' would you feel with a few peas scraped from the bottom of the pan? It illustrates just how relative luck really is.

What about your start in life

What if your environment gives you little access to resources that could 'nudge' your chances of 'luck' in the right direction. You might, for example, expect that a decent education would increase your chances.

What if your grew up in violent environment? That could have damaged your innate resources - the very developmental templates that were meant to help you edge your way to success in life. For so many people, who grew up in an unsafe environment, it feels like they are forever trying to catch up and never making it. Yet amongst them too are those who shine like stars and transcend their early exposure to a less than desirable environment - maybe they even shine because of it.

No arms, no legs

What about Nick Vujicic - born without arms and legs? How 'lucky' is he? You decide:

Of course I interpret what I see through western eyes. 'Luck' may just mean different things in different cultures.

Lucky people?

'Lucky' people - those people who seem to sail through life, whatever it brings and receive seemingly extraordinary offers, have taken no magic bullet and have no magic wand. There does not even necessarily appear anything particularly outstanding about them. They just seem happy and resourceful for most of the time - regardless of their circumstances.

It is ultimately your perception that makes you lucky or not - the messages that you give yourself make the difference and you may have to change those messages. If you were to know a little bit more about those people you considered lucky, you may decide that perhaps they could be considered as very unlucky. What seems to you the ultimate reward may for them have meant the loss of something else. For example: someone running a successful business, with a fantastic income, may well have lost the love of his/her life in the process of building that business.

The difference is that people who consider themselves as lucky are running a different sort of 'spiel' in their mind.

If you are having trouble 'getting' that spiel, it may just be that you are suffering from depression, in which case I would really like you to do something about that and start with following the links further down to my pages on depression.

Alternatively, have a look at the Depression Free Method.

How to leverage your chances of 'having luck’

There is little you can do that will immediately help you to become lucky, but you can start now by changing the messages in your head using positive affirmations.

In addition, the following tips on how to become lucky will nudge you in the right direction too. In fact, you might want to call it 'attracting good fortune', as 'luck' is perhaps a more random occurrence.

There are other benefits to becoming lucky in a sense. The following tips are much more important from my perspective as a counsellor. These top tips on improving your chances of having some luck are likely to boost your confidence, lift your self-esteem, improve your relationships and deal with depression. To help nudge you in the right direction, I can certainly recommend hypnosis to help you build your your self-esteem. I suspect you want to make the most of your infinite unconscious processes to help you become - even more - successful.

As fast as each opportunity presents itself, use it! No matter how tiny an opportunity it may be - use it."

Robert Collier (success author, 1885 - 1950)

Top tips to attract 'Lady Luck'

The Roman goddess of fortune - and fate - Fortuna (Tyche in Greek mythology) represented good as well as bad luck. Invite her pleasure by living your life in a way you would be happy to share with anyone, regardless of role or rank.

My top tips for encouraging lady luck's goodwill, will also help you to avoid feeling downtrodden by the inevitable 'string of bad luck'. You are less likely to it into 'somehow your just deserve'', as you will live your life with purpose.

Just make sure that being 'the nice guy' does not translate into an offering of an easy prey.

Luck is an opportunity that has come your way at the right time for you. Don't let it pass you by. (I had written this way before I happened to come across the above quote!)
Be pro-active: plan for life without ‘luck’, so that when opportunities do come along, you don’t desperately need them and you are fine without them.
Count your blessings everyday – among them you will find the golden nuggets of ‘luck’. You may find that there is no need to invest any more time in how to be lucky - perhaps you already are!
Be honest with others. People know/come to realise you are lying – at the time or later. Opportunities are offered to those who are known, liked and trusted.
Be honest with yourself. Look at everything that happens as a lesson and learn how to do things better, become more trustworthy and genuine. Opportunities are offered to those who are congruent. Congruency builds trust.
Accept your own role in mishaps, disasters, missed opportunities, misfortunes and ‘accidents’, rather than blame everyone else or ‘the circumstances’. Learn from it, decide that it is going to make you a better person, that it does not mean that your luck has 'run out' and move on.

There is no failure – only feedback. Just take it that you may have been in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Celebrate other people's luck or good fortune. Envy and jealousy are a waste of energy.
Refrain from speaking badly about anybody to anybody. Quite apart from it to be a lousy thing to do - ill-considered, rude, unkind and possibly untrue - that person may just be the link to a great opportunity.
Judge every opportunity for its integrity. If you accept those that are sound, you are more likely to sleep soundly, wasting no energy on feeling guilty or worry you’ll be ‘found out’. You will radiate genuine confidence and people are more likely to trust you – and ‘luck’ will come your way.
Don’t wait for opportunities/luck/good fortune to come by - they always appear ‘out of the blue’. Be optimistic. People tend to shy away from negativity - for their own protection. They are even less likely to offer you an opportunity! If you suffer from depression - now is the time to sort it!
Life will throw challenges at you. No doubt it will feel as if 'all hell breaks loose' at times. That does not mean your luck has ran out. Don't waste your energy worrying in advance about things going wrong - you are going to need all your energy when it does happen. If you are generally prone to worrying - get help as soon as you can.
Don't become the kind of person who tots up stuff going wrong, peppering conversations with: "Now this has happened and now that has happened". Your 'filter' will become corrupted with a negative bias for life's inevitable challenges. Luck will simply pass you by as you will be oblivious to it.

In all your dealings, ask yourself: if there was a hidden camera or microphone, would I be happy to see this clip on TV or hear that tape broadcast. If someone was about to offer me an opportunity and I would be in with a chance of luck, would in the cold light of day what I have said or done ultimately cause that chance to pass me by?

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. Mahatma Gandhi

Genuine opportunities are offered to those who work hard, smart and with integrity (you really don't need a 'proper' education for this one). No integrity? You will always be looking over your shoulder - refer to point 4 and 5.
Be yourself. People will 'know' that something is not quite right about you and that you are 'faking' it. You are as unique as the stars - there is no-one like you on this earth! Remember it, celebrate it. People are more likely to trust you, when they realise that what they see is what they get.
Scatter a bit of kindness. There is enough trouble already and people will remember you for being kind. That does not stop you being assertive when the need arises.
Take a calculated risk occasionally. If on balance - all things considered - you remain unsure whether an opportunity is worth wile pursuing: go for it. However, learn to cut your losses in time if it does not work out.
Robert Wiseman wrote: The Luck Factor - a scientific study of the lucky mind which he includes how he taught people to be lucky with great success.

During my first few months in England, I traveled by train around the country looking for a job. One day, during my travels, I walked into the public conveniences at Waterloo Station to the enchanting sound of someone singing.

The warm soulful voice was that of the black woman, who was on her knees under the wash basins, busily polishing all the copper pipes. The whole place looked pristine, the pipes all sparkled and she was singing. I had wanted to surprise her with a bunch of flowers to say 'thank you' for that absolute treat.

I don't remember why I didn't act on that impulse, but to this day I regret not having done that. It seemed she knew how to be lucky and happy; it would not have taken much for her to have felt special and lucky. Sadly I had let the opportunity pass. So, if you happen to know who I am talking about - you know where this message belongs.

Always feeling 'out of luck' or attracting 'bad' luck?

If you feel that you are one of those people who only attract bad luck and that you are the unluckiest person on the block, you may benefit from some help to turn things around for you. It could be that you have developed a memory bias of all things 'unlucky'. Perhaps you are filtering out all that could be seen as 'luck'. Maybe you are even depressed. If so, counselling can really make a difference in helping you reassess your life, finding a new direction and even an ability to create your own luck.

Your relationship or marriage and luck

You are a team! Instead of focusing on each other's short-comings or your own, learn to harness both your strengths and focus on those. Ask yourselves in which areas of life have you been 'lucky' or successful? What can you learn from each other? How can you build on those strengths? SO much better use of energy than envy and jealousy!

Really worried about the state of your relationship? See How to save your marriage/relationship.

Worried your partner is about to leave you? Then my best relationship advice is that you get to understand what you should and shouldn't do - learn how to deal with a partner telling you he/she is leaving you.

I wish you the very best of 'LUCK'!

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