Facebook problems and relationships
Insecurities, suspicions and obsessions

Part 2 of 2, part 1

Facebook fears,
jealousy, obsessions, hacks

You will find here the best solutions to your Facebook problems.

I am guessing that you are here, because of what your partner/spouse, boy- or girlfriend has done, is doing or is suspected of doing. Or maybe you are concerned for someone else - your child or a friend.

If you were to find incriminating 'evidence', how will you know that you can trust it? How will it reassure you?

I have done a keyword search on Facebook - you won't believe the number of requests for Facebook hacks to search engines. On top of that there is plenty evidence of anything from mischievousness to serious ill-intent in many other ways.

Why would you want to hack Facebook

Or, why would anyone want to hack into anyone else's account?

You are (or someone else is):

angry with someone and wants revenge
worried about someone – perhaps your children
jealous
obsessed with someone - one of the most worrying Facebook problems
suspicious about someone - accessing someone else's account is not the solution to your Facebook problem though
plain devious

Worried your partner is cheating on you?

No wonder you want to know how to hack Facebook. I really understand that you are looking to find evidence of the wrong-doing.

What you probably, deep down, are looking for though is some peace of mind. You are done with lies, sleeplessness nights, rows, stress and worries. If you are doubting that you will want to stay in this relationship or maybe you are not sure that you want to stay married to your spouse, then do my relationship test to find out what exactly isn't working in your relationship and/or how much potential there still is to make a real go of it.

Even if the news is bad, you know you would feel better than endlessly, restlessly and obsessively wondering what he/she is up to. You might have even been accused of 'going mad' or words to that extend, with you partner/spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend trying to convince you that it is all in your mind.

Visit my pages on surviving infidelity and how to deal with rejection (see links further down), but - importantly - also read: How to get your ex back, so that you are completely prepared, should your partner tell you he/she wants to end your relationship.

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Are you obsessed with someone?

Do you have someone ‘camping’ in your head?
Are you going to bed thinking about her/him and do you wake up the same?
Are you finding it difficult to concentrate on anything else?
Are you constantly looking for ways to be part of that person’s life?
Are you worried that you are at risk of being accused of stalking someone?
Are you neglecting important aspects of your life?
Are you forsaking company of real friends just so that you can service your addiction?

Well, I can see why you would want to know how you can hack Facebook – you are suffering from an addiction - not just a Facebook problem.

No doubt you recognise yourself in the hilarious video below. However, if you do not begin to change your thinking and behaviour, you could find yourself in serious trouble. Just as serious is that you could lose respect, people you really care about and your own peace of mind!

Clearly, often people, at some time in their life, become seriously attracted to someone they could not necessarily be with - for whatever reason.

Concerned for or about someone else?

Do you want to get into someone's Facebook account, because you are worried for someone else's well being - a friend, a family member? How fortunate they are to have someone care - as a counsellor I can only approve. However ...

Facebook
suspicions Have you thought about what you are going to do if you find out that your friend’s boy/girlfriend/partner/spouse is/has been cheating on her or him? What exactly would you tell them? Can you be sure that she/he will believe you?

Be sure that you really want to help and that you are not just curious. You may want to visit my page on infidelity warning signs too to help you decide what to do.

Worried about your children's use of Facebook?

I think you are absolutely right to be concerned about your children’s access to social networking sites. Every day search engines receive thousands of queries about Facebook that would turn your hair grey. ‘Hack Facebook’ is only one of them. Other queries are around sex and nudity.

Here is what you can do:

open a Facebook account yourself – at least you learn to speak the ‘lingo’ – a definite plus when you speak to your children
learn all about the privacy settings
accept that it is now part of the culture. Your children not only ‘chat’ and write on their own and each other’s ‘wall’. They also access updates on their favourite celebrities. You had posters on your wall!
ask what your child’s school is doing to teach pupils safety on-line
tell your children to report any bullying immediately
explain why they should only accept people know to them as friends
insist that they do not give out any personal contact information
consider what you might have to do to their mobile phones to make them safe
pull the plug on late-night access to the internet – children need their sleep and the quality of sleep before midnight is most important
have a family meeting and ask your kids what solutions and/or rules they can come up with, what kind of control they feel they need. You may just be pleasantly surprised.

The consequences of hacking

What if you were to access someone else's Facebook account? Quite apart of the legality and morality of that - there may be other consequences.

These may be the repercussions:

loss of trust of that person
being accused of being hypocritical
you lose your credibility
the argument will be diverted from what he/she is doing to what you are doing
it is unlikely to bring you any real peace of mind
you may find more than you bargained for
it is most likely to have a negative impact on your relationship - a far more serious issue than any other Facebook problems

Could you be sure that what you see reflects what is happening in reality? How many other ways are there to explain what you see? What is the risk of getting it wrong?

Finally

If your relationship has come to this, you may need to consider your suspicions in a wider context.

In a couple relationship: do you both still love each other, or does it look like your relationship has run out of steam? (See: end relationship quiz)

In a friendship: are you taking over, rather than supporting?

As a parent: have you lost the ability to talk to each other?

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