Life is boring?  Really?

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"Life is boring" or "I’m bored with life" or "my life is boring" are all pretty big statements! Perhaps it would help to first figure out exactly what we’re dealing with. It probably can't happen too soon for you, because I wouldn't be in the least surprised if you're depressed as well.

I have here a step-by-step approach to help you discover how you can stop feeling bored, by getting to the root of your problem. I so hope that we can find a way to stop you feeling bored - I know you have it in you to make a difference - everyone has.

Let's try to break down the problem into chunks to become absolutely clear about why you're bored.  This will increase the chance of finding creative solutions and taking action with the right solutions for you.

You’ll find some probing questions to help you figure out the underlying cause of your current state of mind. Try to be totally honest with yourself – nobody’s looking!

What exactly is going on for you?

  • Do you not have satisfying, close and fun relationships with other people?
  • A difficult one, but ... do you think of yourself as boring?
  • Are you bored in your job?
  • Do you generate excitement and meaning in your life?
  • Do you generate new challenges?
  • Are you dependent on other people to create excitement for you?
  • Are you suffering from anxiety?  Feeling too anxious to step out of your comfort zone? (The Silva Life System can really help. I'll give you the link further on.)
  • Are you suffering from depression?
  • Do you have an alcohol problem?

You’ll feel more in control and buoyed up when you’re in the process of tackling your personal 'stuff' in a positive way.  Relying entirely on other people to create excitement in your life and to make you feel better has the potential to leave you feeling helpless.  You know now what exactly requires your attention if you want to be in the driving seat of your life.

Just haven't got the motivation?  I recommend the hypnosis download Self Motivation Booster.

If you’re suffering from depression I’d really like you to do something about that first.  I don't mean taking antidepressants - they put you at risk of suffering further episodes of depression in the future (not likely something your doctor is going to tell you!). Have a look at my page on natural depression treatments.

There's also loads of information on this site about overcoming depression, including depression in men, so I really hope you'll explore these pages if this is something that you think might be a problem for you.

You can also connect with a professional, licensed therapist. It's now very easy to set up an online session, regardless of the device you're using. For further information, see my page on online mental health counselling.

Bored-looking gargoyle on top of a church.Being in a pensive mood is perfectly okay. Not doing anything and having nothing to do are different things. Both can have a purpose.

No opportunities or lack of confidence?

Just in case you’ve not been able to take full advantages of opportunities that have come your way because you just don't feel confident enough, I’ve sourced a great confidence booster.

If you’re lacking in confidence, you may be avoiding anything that remotely looks like you have to come out of your comfort zone.  It could therefore be that over time you have 'translated' that into feeling: "my life is boring".

I so would like you to tackle that lack of confidence so that you can engage with people and opportunities without being held back by your fear.  Again, hypnosis is great for helping with this problem. I'll tell you more a little further on. First something else...

Just in case it appeals to you - what about building your own online business? Here's the system I used to build my online business (and I'm by no means a techie!)...

Is your relationship the problem?

As a professional couple counsellor, I know that very often people's feelings of dissatisfaction and boredom in their lives can be caused by relationship problems.

Perhaps you're already secretly feeling that your relationship isn't quite right at the moment. I so hope my advice on this page will help you to figure out if your relationship is causing your current feelings of boredom.

In addition, I urge you to get my Breakup Prevention Kit for Couples to spice up your conversations.

Is life boring, or is your partner the problem?

Perhaps you feel that your life is boring because you feel stuck with your partner.

  • Does your partner bore you?
  • Would your partner describe you as boring?
  • Could your partner be bored too?

A 'yes' to any of these questions requires a conversation with your partner.  If you haven’t talked about it, then pluck up the courage to do so. To help you get started, there are plenty of pages on my site about relationship communication.

Is your relationship at the root of your boredom?

  • Are you actually engaging in the relationship?
  • How committed are you really?
  • Has the relationship gone past its first stage of excitement?
  • Are you able to deal with that inevitable change?
  • Do you have sexual relationship problems (see link to page on sex problems on the next page)?
  • Do you need some more excitement in your sexual relationship?
  • Is your partner actively engaging in the relationship?
  • Are you having or thinking about having an affair?  (Trust me when I say infidelity is not the answer!)
  • Do you feel stuck in the relationship?
  • Have you been thinking about ending your marriage / relationship?
  • If so, what’s stopping you?

Several of the questions relate to you personally, requiring you to take responsibility for your role in the relationship.  However, if you’ve answered 'yes' to these questions, you and your partner need to have a conversation.

Can you identify any patterns?

  • Have you felt bored before in previous relationships?
  • If so, has that happened at a similar stage?
  • Does the problem of feeling bored occur in cycles?

These questions require you to think about your relationship history. Our brain works by 'pattern matching'.  It compares what’s happening in the here and now with a huge array of previously established patterns and templates. It does this at an unconscious level.

My questions will help you to create a conscious awareness of what exactly you’re doing.  That way you’re more likely to get to the root of the problem of your 'boring life'.

If you’re flummoxed by this one, maybe you could consider counselling to help you figure it out and move on to leading a more fulfilling life.  A therapist is trained to help you focus on your innate resources and meet your essential emotional needs.

Brainstorming ideas for creating more excitement to overcome the boredom

I have some ideas for you that may just inject some energy into your life again. Some of them you can start straight away.  Some you’ll need to spend a little time mulling over. Just imagine how different life will be once you’ve started on a completely new project. You will:

  • have different things to think and talk about
  • have new friends
  • have less time for worrying
  • feel excited again
  • have a sense of purpose again (most important!)

Brainstorming ideas to help you find a sense of purpose

  • Start your very own profitable internet business. Yes, you can do it with this method. Without it I wouldn’t have stood a chance of building this website myself.
  • Use self-hypnosis to sort out any personal 'issues'. This is absolutely essential. Have a look at my page Hypnosis FAQ and Downloads
  • Start exercising - this is so important - you need to come off the couch and away from your computer, laptop or any other screen (there's even a hypnosis download for exercise motivation!)
  • Plan a dinner party or picnic, rather than wait to be invited
  • Start a new hobby - something creative will be great, because you can do it at home
  • Learn a new skill - preferably one that's entertaining to other people - there are so many (often free) resources on the web now
  • Acquire new knowledge - guided mental stimulation helps, particularly if you feel in control. You can be totally in control when you take online courses in your own time at your own pace. See edX for free courses from leading global universities.
  • Change your eating pattern. Yes... I suspect you are nibbling your way through the day, just because you're bored! There is a special hypnosis download for boredom eating.
  • Start a vegetable garden on your own or with someone else, in your own garden, on your balcony or (re)claim a little 'public' land
  • Find a charity and help someone else out - I can’t think of a greater motivator.  It doesn’t cost anything except your time, and you get a great sense of making a contribution while you’re doing it
  • You can find more ideas on my page about feeling Bored in Your Relationship
  • Carry on brainstorming yourself

Being bored with life is so disheartening! Yet I know for sure that you have the inborn resources you need to get going and create a sense of excitement in your life. Having a purpose will dispel the boredom forever.

Know that you're not here by accident! You are as individual and as special as any star in the skye. Dare to step up to the plate!

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