Bored with life?

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What in life exactly are you bored with?

'Bored with life' is a pretty big statement!  It would be helpful to know exactly what we are dealing with.  I have here a step-by-step approach to help you discover how you can stop feeling bored, by getting to the root of your problem of boredom, so that you can turn your boring life around.

It probably can't happen too soon for you, because I wouldn't in the least be surprised if you are depressed as well as bored.

Let's try to break down the problem in manageable chunks.  This will increase the chance of finding creative solutions and taking action with the most appropriate remedies.

However, I appreciate you might be looking for a 'quick fix'.  I have included what I think is a helpful download and a list of ideas.  Sandwiched in between, you will find some probing questions to help you find the underlying problem of being bored with life.  Try to be 'dead honest' with yourself - nobody is looking!

What exactly is going on for you?

• Do you have good relationships with other people?
• A difficult one, but ... do you think of yourself as boring?
• Are you bored in your job?
• Do you generate excitement in your life?
• Do you generate new challenges?
• Are you dependent on other people to create excitement for you?
• Are you suffering from depression?  (See my page on Signs of clinical depression - link further down)
• Do you have an alcohol problem? (See link further down)

You will feel more in control and buoyed up, when you are in the process of tackling your personal 'stuff' in a positive way.  Relying entirely on other people to create excitement in your life and to make you feel better has the potential of leaving you feeling helpless.  You know now what exactly requires your attention if you want to be in the driving seat of your life.

Just haven't got the motivation?  I can confidently recommend a really effective self motivation booster.

No opportunities or lack of confidence?

Just in case you have not been able to take full advantages of opportunities that have come your way, I have sourced a great confidence booster.

You may think that nothing has come your way (do also visit: How to get lucky - see links further down).  However, possibly if you are lacking in confidence, you are avoiding anything that remotely looks like you have to come out of your comfort zone.

I so would like you to tackle that lack of confidence, so that you can engage with people and opportunities without being held back by your fear.  Hypnosis is a fantastic user-friendly way of dealing with problems.  If you are unsure about hypnosis - you are not alone!  See my page: FAQ about hypnosis.

Is your partner the problem?

• Does your partner bore you?
• Would your partner describe you as boring?
• Could your partner be bored too?

A 'yes' to these questions requires a conversation with your partner.  If you have not talked about it, then pluck up the courage - visit my pages on 'relationship communication' and 'when everything is an argument' to make a good start.

Is your relationship at the root of the problem?

Are you actually engaging in the relationship? How committed are you really? Has the relationship gone past it's first stage of excitement?

Are you able to deal with that inevitable change? Do you have sexual relationship problems (see link to page on sex problems further down)? Do you need some more excitement in your sexual relationship? Is your partner actively engaging in the relationship? Are you having an affair? Do you feel stuck in the relationship? Have you been thinking about ending your marriage/relationship? If so, what is stopping you?

Several of the questions relate to you personally, requiring you to take personal responsibility for your role in the relationship.  However, if you have answered 'yes' to these questions, you and your partner need to have a conversation.

Can you identify any patterns?

• Have you felt bored before in previous relationships?
• Has that happened at a similar stage, if so?
• Does the problem of feeling bored occur in cycles?

These questions require you to think about relationship history. Our brain works by 'pattern matching'.  It compares what is happening in the here and now with a huge array of previously established patterns/templates - at an unconscious level.

My questions will help you to create a conscious awareness of what exactly you are doing.  That way you are more likely to get to the root of the problem.

If you are flummoxed by this one, do consider counselling to help you figure it out and move on to leading a more fulfilling life.  A human givens therapist is particularly trained to help you focus on your resources and meeting your essential emotional needs.

What exactly are your expectations?

We have ever increasing expectations of ourselves, our partners, and how our life should be.  However, if anyone has ever told you it was going to be easy - they lied!

Watch this fascinating 20 minute video to learn what will make you feel energised and happy.

Brainstorming ideas for creating more excitement

I have some great ideas for you that may just inject some energy into your life again.  some of them you can start straight away.  Some will need a little time to mull them over.  Just imagine how different life will be once you have started on a completely new project.  You will:

• have different things to think and talk about
• have new friends
• have less time for worrying
• feel excited again
  

Brainstorming

• USA: Movies and TV
• UK: PC and video games
• Start your very own profitable internet business.  Yes ... you may be surprised/suspicious and you right - it is difficult, but with this programme it is do-able.  I would not have stood a chance otherwise doing this all myself.
  
• Start exercising, if you aren't already - absolutely essential.  Lack of motivation to exercise can be sorted.  You really need to come off that settee and/or away from that computer.
  
• Plan a dinner party, rather than wait to be invited
• Change your career - work from home
  
• Start a new hobby - something creative will be great, because you can do it at home
• Take a course
• Start a vegetable garden on your own or with someone else
  
• More ideas on my page: bored in your relationship
• Carry on brainstorming yourself
• Find a charity and help someone else out - I cannot think of a greater motivator.  It does not cost anything, but your time and that great sense that you are contributing
  

Being bored with life is so disheartening!  Yet I know for sure that you have all the resources you need within you to get going and create excitement in your life.

You may also be interested in:
How to get lucky Signs of clinical depression Alcoholism stages Bored in your relationship Sexual relationship problems Surviving infidelity Dealing with infidelity How to end a relationship Problem solving strategies

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Other helpful links:

PubMed.gov - A phenomenological investigation of being bored with life
ExperienceProject - personal stories

Images courtesy of: 1 Christie Merril; 2 Ivan Prole; 3 Harrison Keely; 4 Tory Byrne; 5 Artem Chernyshevych

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