Understanding body language signs is not only important in personal relationships, but it can also be helpful for professional relationships too.
Becoming observant of – and learning to understand – non-verbal communication increases your emotional intelligence.
Maybe you’ve landed on this page as you’re keen to uncover the body language signs of physical attraction (see list further down). I understand! It can be really hard to figure out if someone ‘fancies’ you or not.
Understanding what is being communicated without words is obviously useful if you’re dating, but you may be here for professional reasons. Either way, I've got you covered.
Be sure to also have a look at Types of Non-Verbal Communication.
It’s only with years of experience that I’ve learned to pick up on signs that I need to pay attention to. As a counsellor I have found over time what to look for, how much attention to give to it, and how and when to respond.
With the knowledge I’ve gained, I hope to be able to help you understand other people better - most of all your partner.
Let's look at what can go wrong first...
It’s not helpful to attach a ‘fixed meaning’ to any particular movements as a 'sign' of something. 'Interpreting’ non-verbal signs without other evidence of what is meant can easily lead to misinterpretations.
Remind yourself of any messages you have recently sent.
How would the meaning of that text or email have changed if you had 'said' it with a smile or with a cheeky sense of humour?
What would it have meant if you said it in an angry voice, still using the same words?
How would it have sounded in a gently challenging tone of voice, or if you had delivered in a 'straight to the point- no nonsense' kind of way?
The meaning of a face-to-face communication depends to a large extend on your body language and how you use your voice. Whilst your text, email, WhatsApp or other message may seem clear to you, the receiver may read it in a way you did not intend.
You're unlikely to be consciously aware of how much your facial muscles are giving away about your feelings, unless you're had botox injections. Research has shown that subtleties are lost by that temporary paralysation of facial muscles.
Have a look at the video below which is beautiful throughout - interesting initially, but then oh so moving.
To further understand body language, join me in Part 2 - where there's another fascinating video that explores just what your face might be saying...
ScienceDaily.com - Gestures improve communication, even with robots
Image courtesy of: Pedro Simoes