My name is Elly; I am the founder, author and webmaster of this site and I'm Dutch.
I moved back to the Netherlands in late 2012 after 33 years in the UK (hence I write in British English!).
I now devote my time to creating the best website I can - based on my 24 years of experience as an expert (relationship) counsellor/therapist.
I sincerely hope that the information in my articles will contribute to your happiness and contentment in your intimate couple relationship(s).
I started as a volunteer telephone counsellor, which made me realise I wanted a career in counselling.
Although I have stopped seeing clients, I am still accredited by the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).
CLICK HERE for testimonials.
My values are kindness, empathy, integrity, loyalty, fairness, openness, self-awareness, personal growth and second, third and sometimes many more chances.
Do I screw up? You bet I do, just like you! :-) That's life and I'm learning and making changes as I go along.
Oh, and I support the Afghan Children's Mobile Circus.
If life is tough for you right now - hang on in there. I know you can manage it - I believe in you! I know that you were born not just to survive but to thrive, and I want you to hold on to that belief too - every single day.
I'm aiming to increase your knowledge, awareness and understanding of the psychology of human relationships so that you'll feel stronger in the face of any challenge in your relationship. I hope to empower you to be bold, and courageously make the necessary changes to enable you to overcome your problems. Ultimately, this will help you to regain your peace of mind and happiness.
Maybe you were hoping I could help you with your problems, in which case I'm really sorry to have to disappoint you. I'm unable to be there for you personally - click here to read more about why this is.
I am now focusing all my energy on making as much information freely available here on my site to help as many people as possible. More than 17,000 people a day visit my website and right now you are in the company of 50 other visitors at the very least.
Although I can't help you personally, I certainly can point you in the right direction:
Here is my sincerest wish for you...
Do remember though that your silence may not necessarily be golden. I therefore hope that you do find someone you can really trust so that you can open your heart and share your troubles.
Well... that was after endless searching, trying and trying again, and failing!
My father printed the local paper in a small town in the Netherlands. I am the eldest of five children. I am divorced and have one son. I live in a tiny village (uhhh... it has city rights!), love to walk my dog, row (St Ayles skiff), read, and spend time with my family and friends.
I spend much of my time, however, maintaining and improving my website.
Caroline takes care of my editing, since I'm not a native English speaker (I have to admit though - I sneak in bits of text by stealth, so don't blame her if you find some dodgy text!).
In addition she takes care of my email box whenever I'm not available, as well as doing all kinds of other admin tasks.
Caroline over-delivers, is unmissable and always ready with ideas and advice. You'll find her here, but don't 'steal' her.
My father was my inspiration. He was always cheerful, positive, kind and considerate. I feel immense gratitude towards him and my mother for their love and the great start in life they gave me.